AITAH for not wanting to talk to my dad anymore?
before anything— heres the context / story
i, 18f, live with my mom and just my mom. my entire life, my mom had full custody. he only had rights to visitation. during my entire childhood he was emotionally and mentally abusive. and physically abusive to my older brother. bottom line is— he’s an asshole.
but heres the situation im at now.
my father is now homeless, a year ago both his parents passed away and he got left with a lot of money. he chose not to pay the child support he owed my mom, and also chose not to buy an apartment or house. he lived off of hotel rooms, essentially lived in them. he pulled that off for a year until all the money ran out. during this said year-up until a few months ago, he acted off. reaaally off. i know my dads a pos but he was acting erratic, i mean full on delusional. he lost a LOT of weight and lost a tooth. my mom and i had speculation of (TW) drug usage. he’d often times show up randomly to my house (he’s been doing this, so keep that in mind. just this time it was worse) and when he would, he’d spit nonsense and borderline scare me with what he said. i had to file a missing persons report, and often times he’d come over and spit fabricated stories that didn’t make any sense. so basically anytime he came over it’d just be drama and stuff i didnt wanna deal with. to the point i’d get anxious and scared everytime i heard our doorbell camera go ‘someone was detected at your front door’. remember the child support he owed? well, a few months ago (during his weird erratic behavior phase) he was arrested due to unpaid payments. so he went to jail for a month, i felt relieved. it was nice and peaceful, he got out on a deal (and of course he still never paid) but i noticed he stopped acting so crazy so i assume he went through withdrawals.
fast forward to now, he’s still homeless. and a few days ago he got his (legally my DEAD grandfathers) car taken away. so he’s straight up homeless.
i ignore my dad, a lot. i’ve tried to rebuild something with him and hope he could change but he never has and probably never will. so i’ve given up all hope on him. it feels like hes not even my dad. everytime he’d come over he never acted like a father. to me it just felt like he was my moms friend. even hugging him felt awkward. i feel terrible thats he’s homeless and my mom and i have tried helping so much and he just always messes up what he’s offered. i dont want to talk to him anymore because everytime i do i just get so stressed out beyond comprehension— and i just cant handle him rn. i dont know exactly what to do. i probably missed a lot of key details so pls ask any questions. i just wanna know if what i’m doing is okay because i feel guilty, and at the end of the day he is my father after all.
thank you to whoever read this all through.