Hiya folks! I hope you’re all doing well.
I’m after some relationship advice.
My girlfriend and I (Both 38) have been together for over seven years now.
We are so happy together and love each other so much. We’ve both been through a lot in our own lives in the past in terms of trauma and abuse, and try to help one other as much as we can.
We both don’t want kids (I’ve had the snip) and are very content with the idea of spending the rest of our lives together. We get along so well, have such a good laugh, and share a lot of important values and beliefs.
Before we met, I was in an abusive relationship with someone for four years, and it did a real number on me. At this time my Dad also had cancer and was clearly deteriorating which left me feeling very vulnerable and all over the place. Subsequently, it really affected the way that I saw myself in a lot of ways, including my own libido and attitude to sex.
Ever since we first met, we have had amazing sex. We connect so much on an emotional and physical level. However, for several years now I have struggled with my overall libido.
I’ve been using a sexual health app called Mojo which has been really helpful when it comes to understanding struggles with libido, overthinking and reflecting on how I feel about my image, but I’m still encountering these issues with my girlfriend where I freeze up and I’m not able to fully enjoy myself.
I was wondering if anyone else in their thirties has experienced this sort of libido doldrums at all? And if so, what has been your way to address this?
Cheers.