Fiancé wants us to have communion during our wedding, I do not. We can't seem to find a compromise
My fiancé and me will be married next year. Ever since we started planning he has planned for it to include communion. For context he is lutheran. I don't adhere to any specific religion, but I occasionally attend church and enjoy it (we are both baptized)
Like stated, this is something we can't really compromise on, since it's something you either do or you don't. I have a few reasons why I don't like the idea, but I thing the major three are:
It makes the ceremony longer, especially with the attendees possibly taking it as well. I'm already equal parts excited and anxious about the day in general, as crowds and noise leave me fatigued for days.
It makes (in my opinion) the reason for celebrating very two-sided. Are we celebrating the union of our relationship, or God?
Many attendees would not be comfortable taking communion, which would feel awkward and potentionally excluding.
I think I'm just looking for advice from like-minded christians in this. Is there a way to compromise that we haven't thought of? Or is there a way to look at the situation that would be eye-opening for either one of us? Please share your advice if you have the time, and please be kind.
Edit for clarification: We were both raised lutheran, WE DO NOT LIVE IN THE US
Edit 2: We have been together for more than 10 years and have had MANY discussions about our individual faith and future together. It's hurtful to read the conclusions some of you are making.