Struggling with working to be confirmed Catholic or Lutheran
I (26M) felt turned to God after being an Atheist since I was a teenager. I am baptized Lutheran but never attended church. My fiancé (25F) is Catholic and was confirmed, so we have been attending Catholic mass the last few months. We have only attended one Lutheran service which I did not like as it had modern, non-hymn music, people who had no reasonable control over their children, and an older couple pushed us multiple times about taking communion despite us politley saying we were guests. Our Catholic church and priest have been great so far and has a healthy balance of traditionalism and modernity.
I and my fiancé lean left politically and would likely be considered liberal Catholics. However, I feel like I would be on the conservative end of Lutheranism. I agree a lot with the Catholic church but I have some disagreements that may be strong enough to dissuade me. I feel if I convert and I don't abide by all the teachings, that my faith won't really be sincere. I feel like it may also have to do with most modern converts wanting to be on the conservative end of things and wanting things like the Latin Mass, which I do not care for. My fiancée doesnt have such concerns since she was born into it and is a little bit of a "cafeteria" Catholic. She is not "requiring" me to be Catholic, but it would make things practically easier going into marriage.
Agreements with Catholic Church
-importance of the Eucharist
-traditional mass (compared to many protestant/non-denom)
-independence from American politics
-confession
-even if I am not Catholic, I think the Pope and the Church are to be respected
-Priest/pastors should be thoroughly educated and well vetted
Agreements with Lutheranisn
-lack of venial/mortal sins
-more tolerance of LGBT (although I do not feel my ideal church has to affirm it)
-tolerant of birth control use in marriage
-the Pope and Catholic Church can and do have fallible teachings
Mixed perspectives
-salvation can be by faith alone if that faith is genuine and reverent. However, I think people in ordinary circumstances should participate in sacraments and at the very least not bring extra suffering into the world.
-I believe most churches are valid as long as they believe in the Trinity and the Ressurrection as it is understood by Catholics and mainline Protestants.
Looking for advice, perspectives, or questions to contemplate!