Partner [24F] bailed out of moving in together over summer last minute and I [23M] am considering breaking up over it
We have been together for almost a year at this point. We live in different cities, which limits how often we can meet. I am a student, and she is working full-time while living with her parents.
For the larger part of the year, we had planned to rent a place together for two months over the summer while I took an internship in the city she lives in. This would allow us to spend some time together and get a feeling of how it is to live together.
We spent months looking at places, and eventually found a place. We got to the point where we were supposed to sign a contract, but right before that she bailed. Apparently she had spoken to her parents about the idea, and they hated it and considered it a big waste of money. Her parents helped her buy an apartment she is supposed to move into in half a year, and she felt she could not cross them.
I do get its hard to have controlling parents, I can understand that. Its not something I can control. At the same time, shes 24 and should be able to stand up for herself.
Her bailing really upset me and betrayed my trust, and I am struggling to forgive her two weeks later. One thing is that I now have to find an apartment last minute alone which will be more expensive, but the other thing is that I cannot have her controlling parents affect my life. I ger that its hard for her and she wants to get out of being controlled, but I have to watch out for myself aswell and can't wait forever for things to get better. I cannot live with having to worry if her parents will cross decisions we make together.
I have been considering breaking up over it, but I am not sure if that is an overreaction to something that will (hopefully) get better over time. It is also scary to break up because its my first relationship (her second). Also I do still want to be with her.
Could she be able to gain independence, or would it take too much therapy and I should spare my time and move on?
TLDR; Girlfriend and I planned on moving in together over the summer, but her controlling parents hated the idea so she backed out of it last moment before signing the contract. Now I am considering breaking up over it.