Need honest advice please
Just found out my husband is on a social media app spending a lot of money- with money sent privately to women. Originally he tried to lie and say it was and gambling app-
i called BS-
(We had an issue a few years back bc of his spending on another very popular app I asked him to stop - he did for a time(I think)
He insists it s more about pride of winning and chase or some s like that and that it’s not something wrong with our relationship- he loves me ; can’t imagine life w/o me …. It’s been weeks I’m trying to understand. We have 4 kids together and built a life together.
He said he knows he needs help-but can’t really explain why he is hiding and seeking something outside of what we have. Now he is love bombing me trying to brush it off.
Im just so hurt even tho they sent him the pictures and they
weren’t super spicy or anything- I have never even spoken to a man in anyway that would disrespect our marriage -even before that actually since we were dating - I was loyal then also.
Are men just wired differently that after so long they need to seek out a new challenge? I’m honestly curious.