u/Bck2WrkMomma

I’m 16 months PP & I am kicking my own self because I fully intended on being my consistent with scar massaging but it took me a while to touch my scar.

I would sometimes do it while in the shower or a few minutes after getting into bed. Again, very infrequently.

I am now trying to be more intentional. Knowing my scar is fully mature. My physical activity has been mostly sedentary - outside of working / commuting full time x running the house, I just couldn’t get around to making the proper time for myself. I went to two pelvic floor therapy sessions, but hard to schedule and make time.

So I’m starting now! Questions for those who started later:
- did you get pregnant again, if so, how was your delivery and do you think starting later affected anything?
- did you have significant adhesions or discomfort?
- if starting late, what were your results after being consistent? & how are you doing today?

We live in a 1-bedroom rent-stabilized apartment in NYC.

Our son is 16 months old and sleeps in his crib, but we’re struggling with the 5am- 5:45am wake up. He sometimes resettles but only if we bring him into our bed. Other times, he’s up, but still visibly tired.

Some days he is one nap but largely is two naps. So, I’m wondering if that’ll help?

Two molars are almost in. Lately, he needs snuggles to get to bed and won’t go down on his own.

I think we need to consider a modified CIO, but I’m wondering if anyone else has or is having a similar experience and what works for you.

Looking for advice as I'm pretty frustrated by the dynamics amongst my team.

New manager, 9 months back to work post maternity leave. I had to fire my previous direct work after several attempts of course correcting and ultimately didn't rise to the occasion while on I was leave. They were fired a month after I returned. They were in the role for a year & a half.

A new hire has been in the role since late November and has developed a pattern of calling frequently on Thursdays. 13 documented absences and 10 out of 13 have been on Thuradays & always last minute. Nothing in violation of policy but the pattern is an issue.

I've been trying course correct other matters and they seem to improve and then regress. I don't think this hire is happy in this role and is just going through motions of doing tasks to get them off of their plate. This isn't something I can help any further and they just culturally aren't a fit.

My two colleagues have been pestering me to terminate and then back peddled when we show signs of progress. I've had a few conversations with HR on the matter & planned to have a formal documented chat with my report tomorrow to address the attendance pattern.

What I am ruminating over is that there are now four times I've shared I will discuss concerns with HR and my colleague has gone to HR directly on the matter before ‘ve had the opportunity to approach them on it.

I'm so frustrated because I’ve shared that I was planning to approach HR same day on issue and this behavior makes me feel incompetent, undermined, & putting me under review & jeporidozng my role/position.

How can I approach them and professionally ask them to back off and let me address this directly? How does HR view this matter?