Help me help my friend
My best friend, damn near brother at this point, just went through quite the manipulative relationship. They met online, few months later, they became bf gf, that lasted 1 week. She was awful to him and only left once they started talking about meeting up because she was secretly already married with kids. This utterly wrecked him cuz he’s convinced he’ll never find love ever again (if you can even call what they had love). He loved her and she manipulated him into thinking she was everything he wanted and promised to be his “first and last”. It’s been about a year since then and he’s still extremely heartbroken, depressed, and paranoid, plus he’s always struggled with extreme OCD which makes things worse. We’ve had 6-12 hour calls almost daily since, and I don’t know how much more I can handle, for my own mental health. All day, everyday, he bashes himself saying he wasn’t good enough, he’s worthless, he’ll never find love, he’s ugly, etc. Many times he has punched and slapped himself in the face, cried over and over, yelling at the top his lungs for someone to come kill him, wishing he had the courage to kill himself, wishing he could kill her. Then he says I’m the only one keeping him alive, which puts loads of pressure on me, and stresses me tf out. I’m generally a very introverted person, not a big people person, and not very talkative, and when he says these things I kind of just shutdown, idk what to say so all I can do is listen usually. So for a year now, almost everyday, for 8 hours, I sit there doing nothing listening to this. I don’t know what to do anymore, he refuses professional help too. Could really use some advice, thx