Fear of partner interacting with attractive people
This is my first time posting and I don’t know if this is the right place to post it but here it goes— I really struggle with my boyfriend interacting with attractive people. The fact that he is capable of perceiving attractive people scares the shit out of me.
No amount of reassurance from him helps. I wonder if I have OCD because I will spiral for days after he interacts with an attractive person. My brain will tell me he was flirting (rationally, I know he never was) and my brain will compare me over and over to this person.
My brain especially latches on to the concept of “objectively attractive” people. It tells me I’m not a part of this category and that I never will be— and I believe it. Fully. I can be perceived as attractive but I am not objectively attractive and it drives me insane.
I don’t want to be a jealous person. I don’t want to be insecure. I want to be able to see an attractive person and not feel the need to compare myself. This sucks. Not to mention, insecurity isn’t hot. I spiral on this too.
Does anyone experience this too and have advice on how to stop the spiral?