How to deal with a partners homophobic parents?
Okay so this is my first post on Reddit (like ever) but I’ve been in a MAJOR dilemma since August.
I, (16M) am gay. I’ve been on and off with this guy (16M) I met in August. We dated from the end of August-January 10th, the reason for our breakup was his mother.
For context, she hates me, A LOT. She stalked my social media and somehow got the impression I’m an unstable, manipulative, crazy alcoholic. I already know that she is homophobic prior to this, as she did tell him that if he were to be gay, she’d kick him out about a month prior to the initial dilemma. So she formed this opinion through my reposts?? From what I’ve deducted, she was looking for a reason to be homophobic towards me because I repost like one or two things about weed once in a blue moon (I don’t even really like alcohol so not sure where that came from.)
After we broke up, we have become this on and off FWB. I’m mostly fine with it because I know his situation is hard, but we keep getting caught, and then he leaves for a few months, or weeks. He’s not a bad guy and he doesn’t want to do it but he has to because he’s scared of her. He’s a basketball athlete who’s trying to go to one of the best universities in our province — she has threatened to stop paying for both if he keeps talking to me. We are now talking again for the third time, but I’m scared that we just got caught again, hence why I am currently writing this.
I have SO much I want to say to her. But I can’t say it, I’ve brought up the idea of me coming over and speaking to her personally, as she has NEVER seen me in person or talked to me. But he rejected the idea pretty quick every time I talked about it — and we have even fought about it.
So my question to this community, how can I deal with this? I have that feeling when I look at him that he’s the one, he’s my person. And I think he feels the same way considering he’s come back so many times despite his mom’s wishes (he’s stated he has to follow his mom’s wishes bc she’s his mom.) I don’t want to give him up. I need us to have a happy ending because I’ve never felt this way with any other guy I have dated.
What’s the best approach?
I will answer comments, questions, and concerns
Edit: he is currently not responding and I am not sure if his mother caught us again or if he was fucking with me as a joke bc he said it was his mother responding