Introduction
Hi everyone. I'm Kiera, and I'm so glad to find this space.
I'm a mom, a co-parent, and someone who spent years being the monogamous partner in a mono/poly relationship. My husband of 20 years came to me and told me he was polyamorous. We were in a new country, I had no job, no network, no real footing — and I felt like my only option was to say yes and figure out how to survive it.
So I tried. Really tried. Therapy twice a week, journaling, EMDR, somatic work, all the books, all the groups. I overhauled my entire life trying to become someone who could be okay with it. I convinced myself that my resistance was the problem. That I just needed to heal more, grow more, be more spiritually evolved — and then I'd be fine.
What I didn't see until much later was how completely I had abandoned myself in the process. One small override at a time, I had written myself out of my own story in the name of love.
It took me a long time — and a lot of pain — to finally get honest about what I actually needed. And even longer to believe I was allowed to need it.
I'm on the other side of that now. I found my way back to myself. And that journey is actually what led me to the work I do today — sitting with women who are living exactly what I lived, helping them stop abandoning themselves and start finding their way back.
I'm here to connect, to listen, and to show up for this community the way I wish someone had shown up for me. 🤍