Adult daughter frustration
I’m not posting the entire backstory here lol basics - my wife and and are I our mid-late 40s. We have 6 kids between us, all young adults. 2 my bios, 4 hers…I adopted hers so they are actually all mine. If you need to know more check the profile.
My wife and I are going on vacation for the month of August this year. Just her and I. We are leaving our oldest daughter (25) and her husband to take care of the farm and we are super excited.
The issue is my daughter. It seems like every time we make plans to be alone she tries to insert herself. I made it clear from the start this was a couples vacation and she is not invited. I only informed her of the plans out of courtesy. Now she is losing her mind, calling me every single night because she “comes to visit in the summer” and now she only can see me in June or July.
She is an adult. She hasn’t come for a full summer in several years. Usually she comes for a week in the summer and is happy with that. She works.But because I am going away with my wife for a month…suddenly she has decided she was planning to spend the summer at the farm and unwind and get away.
She keeps crying and begging me to cancel this year so she can “have a get away and reconnect”. She actually suggested my wife take one of the other kids on this vacation so I can be free to be with her one on one. She never asks for this kind of time with me unless I already have plans with my wife.
I’m literally about done. I’m not ditching my vacation with my wife because she has a wild hair and decided it’s daddy daughter bonding time. She didn’t even say anything about this idea until I told her about our vacation. I am so frustrated with this girl. I don’t know what to do with her any more.