Adopted Daughter is BPD
Our 12 yo is very young to have BPD. New providers are surprised by the diagnosis. In the beginning of March to current she’s been inpatient 3 times, PHP once, and had countless mental health ED trips and OBS stays. All for self harm and SI.
No one in our extended family really has an understanding of what’s actually going on with her episodes. They pressured her dad to let her live with her grandma (btw is a religious freak) I fought to keep her home but ultimately conceited to letting her stay a week with the agreement that we would evaluate it weekly. Welp, a week and a half in she has an episode. Her grandma and aunt freaked out (they had never seen this side of her) talked in tongues on her, called 911 and took her to a state hospital.
We gave consent to have her transported. I was not aware it was a state hospital. The thing I didnt understand about the state hospital, which the SW suggested was they may take her involuntarily. I begged the social worker not to do that and got in the car to drive 2.5 hours to plead her case. Tt my daughter on the phone asked her to advocate for herself and she did that wonderfully!
They ended up releasing her back to grandma and they went to grandmas house.
Ugggg. How dangerous and just super uneducated were these people- the extended family!!! Like my 12 yo girl could have been sent to a state hospital with up to 18 yo people. In our state the hospitals are notorious for being terrible. Like my kid would be more traumatized after an experience like that.
She’s finally back home because guess what they got SCARED SHITTLESS. They had no fucking clue about what they thought they knew of BPD.
They prayed in tongues on her and talked about her potential having demons. I put a boundary in before my kid went with them that I didn’t want her exposed to any of that religious bs. Uggggggggg.
FUCK. I hate religious people sometimes. Our household is agnostic. My kid felt really uncomfortable.
I know grandma and everyone loves my kid. They thought she just need extra love and a schedule.
For fucks sake I could have lost medical control and my little girl could have gotten lost in a fucked up, broken state funded shit show of a residential facility.
Otherwise our insurance sucks. We are desperate for support but aren’t rich either.
Looking at virtual IOP programs to supplement 2x therapy weekly. We don’t have great options. Our state is I think dead last when it comes to adolescent mental health.
But I guess the extended family actually saw what was actually happening to our girl.
But basically fuck those people. uggggggggggg
EDIT TO INCLUDE:
Not putting her on meds for BPD. MEDS ARE FOR COMORBID ISSUES ADHD, anxiety and depression.