Family drama
So ive been estranged from my sister and her family for a few years now. Everyone in my family knows that I dont have any desire to be around her or her family. Recently I have had a few other family members pushing me to try and fix things. So this weekend I had my first booth for my hobby/side business. My older brother got ahold of me a few days before asking what I had planned for the upcoming Saturday. I told him about the show and he told me he was planning on coming up to visit my mom and said they would swing by the car show I was at. To my surprise, my older brother decided it wasnt worth mentioning he was bringing my sister with him. While I was doing something for a customer, my brother, my mother, and my sister all walk into my booth. My brother was overly talkative, but my mom and my sister were completely silent. I would only assume that was because they both knew my sister was not welcome. They stayed in my booth for about 45 minutes then leave with very little being said.
I was already worn thin just from having all of the mental stress from having my first solo booth. I just cant understand why someone would willing add to what someone has going on. I could even understand why someone wouldnt be happy with family members not getting along. But to build tension between yourself and a family member just for a weak attempt to have things get resolved between them and another just doesnt make sense to me. I didnt have anywhere else to put this, nor do I have anyone I can really vent to about it.
Am I wrong for being frustrated and putting space between my brother and I?
The reason my sister and I are estranged is because of something her and her husband did years ago. My dad had a massive heart attack just before Thanksgiving. Two weeks later, on Thanksgiving, I showed up with my family to my parents house. My sister and her family were not there, and never showed up. I asked where they were and I was told she had just gotten a new oven and wanted to cook a turkey this year. Why not invite everyone you might ask? Thats what i asked, which is when I found out my sister invited everyone but my thing brother and myself. All because her 17 year old kids, one who was about to have a child of his own, did not like my brother and I. The same thing happened on Christmas, so I decided make a phone call. My sister then berated me about how big of a bully I am and how much I have changed through the years. So from there on we were no longer on speaking terms.