Betrayal and Hurt don’t know what to do anymore
Let me start off by explaining my relationship with my SD, and my partner…
Me (F27) and my partner(M33) have been good friends for 5 years now, just friends and only friends for 4 out of the 5 serious this last year. I’m so deeply in love with this man. I am now 5 months pregnant with a baby boy. Since I’ve been pregnant there’s been nothing but constant stress and drama about us and the (paternity of the child) He had a child before us.
He has a 9 year old daughter that I have known this entire time, her mother(34f) I have never met. I am not opposed to the idea of meeting her. But the drama is always inevitable and draining. They were together on and off over the years but called it quits after her daughter was born and she went and got married to another man while my partner was at work.
I have ALWAYS watched my mouth around his daughter I never speak ill of anyone she loves around her, due to childhood trauma of my stepmother just being vile to me mother. I know what that can do to a child.
He gets her on the weekends and usually I let that be his weekend with her. But she asks to hang out with my children and I sometimes. I agree and we had a fun day, slushies, the park, swimming, then I bought everybody McDonald’s. We end up dropping her off at her mother’s after we said our good byes.
He gets a message and it’s his baby mama sending him videos of her crying and carrying on with her mentioning things and SD is agreeing with them as she says the things. then the mother accuses me of trying to drown her in the lake and how he yells at her bc I’m around…. This is just not the case.
Now she said that he can’t be around his daughter anymore and he got really upset because the day was awesome and if those things were said they were all just lies and manipulation.
I think this mother is nothing but drama I mean from the moment we took our relationship public she has tried to ruin it by projecting her own behaviors onto others. He’s never treated his daughter or I badly. She suggested to him that he needs to get me and abortion, that the kid isn’t his, and he stands strong beside me and lets her know whatever story she makes up is just that.
I’m just at a loss.
Me and SD have always had a good relationship with each other that was just that. Our own relationship. I never ask her prying questions I let her have a safe place with me. And she tells me things very concerning things.