Intimacy changed when trying for baby no.2
TW: TL;DR; miscarriage
I 33F and my spouse 40M have been together for over 11years, we have a beautiful daughter who is almost 10 now. We have always had a great physical relationship and never had issues with intimacy, it came very naturally for us.
I have been wanting baby no.2 since 2018, which my husband was very reluctant given our finances. But with time we have really progressed and are now comfortable with mid-senior jobs that give us the flexibility to plan for our next child.
Also need to add that I have PCOD and hormonal issues that made it difficult for me to conceive and suffered a miscarriage(MC) in Feb 2025(not planned, happened naturally). My husband was supportive through it all and it never affected our physical relationship and he always found me attractive.
Since Feb 2025 after the MC, I have been working with gynac to correct this issues, lost almost 30kgs (was obese with 36 BMI), and finally got the green signal to start trying in April this year. Strangely, since this meeting with gynac(my husband always accompanies me all appointments), he has been struggling to finish. Honestly, which is quite key in this entire scenario.
The last few weeks have been crazy and we just don't feel like we are like the way we used to be before - physically, I understand it's only been 5 weeks but given how long I have worked to reach here, it upsets me a lot. I feel angry and betrayed on some level.
I have asked him multiple times if he doesn't want another kid, but he had always said he's up for it, it will happen if its meant to be, so I'm unsure what's causing this.
Am I overreacting or just being impatient? Any advise for my mental sanity would be helpful.