depressed mom
hi i've never posted on reddit before, but im rly struggling with somethign right now. my dad (very typical charming man who always has to be the center of the every conversation) is insanely overprotective and paranoid that im goonna do something to tarnish the reputation hes worked so hard on. anyways throughout the years he's put so much pressure on my mom that my mom now has MS and chronic pain literally all the time. if shes not in pain, shes trying to spend time with us and do her motherly roles (cooking running errants for him etc.) he puts so much pressure on her and overthinks every single thing that we're all doing ( my three sisters and i) that none of us even like going out with friends anymore and my mom hasn't seen her friends in 3 months.
today she was going to go to her friends birthday party ( they're our family friends and close to my dad aswell) and she was so excited, which made me so happy because she deserves to live life and do things for her, but just like everything else. my dad ruined it and told her she isn't allowed to go because it wont be a good look that he's not with her ( hes on a work trip in another country). he literally ruins everything. im tired of it and we cant do anything. my mom doesnt work and my sisters and i are still in college. i have a habit of letting my anger consume me, but i don't know if thats helpful in this situation.
my dad is abusive i already know, but how can i be more compassionate to my mom, rather than angry at my dad for what hes doing to us. we don't deserve this. this is unfair and my mom is living for the first time aswell. he see's his friends twice a day, EVERYDAY. its not fair. theres nothing i can do but my heart hurts for her and for us but for her most, because my sisters and i are gonna get married and not have to deal with this. she has to deal with it for the rest of her life.