Apparently wanting financial clarity makes me cold
Part of the reason I chose not to have kids was because I’ve always valued stability and independence pretty heavily. I spent most of my 20s building a life that felt secure because I grew up around constant stress over money and relationships and I knew I didn’t want that for myself later on. Now I’m getting married and one conversation about protecting assets somehow turned into people implying I must secretly expect the relationship to fail. Maybe being childfree changes how I look at relationships a little but I don’t see love and financial planning as opposites.
I think having difficult conversations while things are good is healthier than avoiding them until emotions are high later on. I also think not having kids changes the dynamic in some ways because there’s no future scenario where people stay together for the family. The relationship either works long term or it doesn’t and I’d rather have clarity while we still care about each other than try sorting everything out years later when resentment already exists.
The strange part to me is how often people treat emotional commitment and practical planning like they cancel each other out somehow. Feels like a lot of people romanticize avoiding uncomfortable conversations until life forces them to have them anyway.