Advice on lowering libido
My gf and I have been dating for a 3 years and we have very different libidos currently. At the beginning we had pretty evenly matched libidos but not for the past 6 months. I’ve been the primary initiator recently which has left me feeling rejected and guilty for asking. I don’t want to pressure her so I’ll go periods without initiating. I still try to do other intimate but nonsexual things like holding hands or kissing too. Lately the rejection has been getting to me. I feel unattractive and undesirable. I also feel bad bringing it up but ik it’s unfair to leave that all on her to initiate so I still try occasionally. Verbally she seems interested but not physically. Like if I ask to makeout or if she’s in the mood her responses seem interested but once it becomes physical she cuts things short. I don’t blame her or try to make her feel bad. I just can’t help feeling rejected though.
Please lmk if you have any advice!