Boyfriend not vibing with my 6 year old. What to do?
I’m 35 F with a 41 M. We’ve been together 2 years now. We get along famously. I have a 6 yr old girl from my previous relationship. I’m going to try to keep this brief. My bf is not moving in likely any time soon tho we want to work toward that. Currently he sees my daughter once every few weeks. To her face he is actually really nice. He tries. He plays with her. Draws with her. They seem to get along. But I know she’s not his cup of tea. She can be very bossy. Very boyish. She’s a good girl. Teachers rave at her listening abilities and she’s so well behaved. She’s just a typical only child with maybe some sensory issues. She’s also incredibly smart and can speak like an adult or process emotions way beyond her years. But does not throw tantrums. Listens very well. She just isn’t like his nieces who are perfect little girls. My daughter loves snakes and dragons. She likes to run and be wild. His nieces like to be… typical little girls. I don’t know how else to put it lol quiet make believe games. They’re calmer. I love them so much but they’re what I’d expect a little girl to behave like. They’re also not only children. There are 4 kids in that fam. She’s just.. different from them.
Anyway, I know he’s not fond of her and struggling to bond with her. The thing is.. he’s nice to her face. I just know this based on what he’s told me.
Just don’t know what to do. Should I end things or wait them out? What sort of conversation do we need to have? It breaks my heart and puts me on edge every time he’s near her just thinking that she’s rubbing him the wrong way.