Need help on the lookout for my relationship. I am (21F) and partner is (22M). He is deciding whether or not we would get married. How do I cope if it’s a bad outcome?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. We are college students and Christians as well. Marriage is very important to us but it’s been hard this semester. I have been in a horrible living situation for my entire academic year and it really sucked the life and joy out of me. It took a giant toll on our relationship. He had already decided but this year he has been really trying to make sure. We had a giant long conversation but his main concern would be worried if he’s ready if marriage will always be this hard. I told him it won’t, it’s just going to be work. This summer we are spending apart or not seeing each other for 3 months. He’s been a bit doubtful and deciding he will make the final decision on whether to marry me or not. I’m trying so hard not to spiral because I have lots of relationship trauma or anxiety about giving ultimatums to me. We have been happy for so long but this year was so hard. I’m trying to have hope and trust in God that we will be okay after this giant break. We know both of us will miss each other a lot and hope to reconnect. I would be devastated if we did break up. How do I take this one day at a time or be okay if we do split up? I am going to keep hoping for the best if it seems like there is hope.