Why my grandma is "better" when we are not around?
I am (21F) and my mom (49F) while my grandma is (78F) I also have a father (53M) and a little sister (17F). And my mom has a brother (42M). And there's been an abnormality going on that I can't wrap my head around. For context, me and my mom are the main caretakers of my grandma, my mom being the one to take care of practically everything and me supporting her most. From the pills to what we will cook, to what we should buy or what activities we should do with her we are the ones thinking and planning all that.
My grandma is usually very calm, however it feels like her condition is worsening whenever my mom is out of her sight. She can't help but be more forgetful or do unsanitary things when my goes out for something simple like grocery shopping.
However, whenever she talks with my uncle she's fine. She genuinely talks better, or with more confidence when it's with him. Not always but usually. More so, we went to a two days trip (that we planned months ago) together as mother-daughter, leaving her to my dad's care. And both my dad and sister said she was better, more well put when we are not around.
Of course that upset my mom, and I honestly feel similar. We do everything for her, every medical emergency, every physical and emotional need we are the ones there first.
My uncle think we are being crazy whenever we talk about things that happened, worse is that they'll meet for a holiday this week and I feel like my grandma will just be better next to him, and he'll act like we are nuts even more!
Did anyone experience something similar? Or have any theories on why this might happen?