Is it me or am I being manipulated?
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6 years into our 7 year relationship he discovered he’s poly. I am not. We agreed that we both still want each other and continued the relationship. We were clear on my stance and his. However, at no point did we agree to open things up. In fact, I’ve said to him that if he wants to continue w me he’s agreeing to continue monogamy and if he wants poly he should go elsewhere. He said he wanted me. Then, he cheated. When confronted about his infidelity he says “I told you I’m poly.”
And, I feel like I don’t know what I can say to that! It’s like his get out of jail free card. I’m left feeling stupid.
I came here for support so please be kind.
Does being poly mean you can’t control your urge to be with other people? Emotionally and/or sexually
If not, how do I respond when he says this to me? Every time I am just left crying and with no words to say.