“Spoiling” a baby
My baby is 4 weeks old. She was also born at 34 weeks because I had preeclampsia. In NICU for 13 days.
I was trying to take a nap, and I heard the baby crying really really loud. I never heard her cry sound like that before, it sounded like she was in severe pain. I go in the living room to find her in her car seat, and he is just sitting there allowing her to cry uncontrollably.
I ask wtf is going on. He said that he read somewhere that she needs to learn to basically not be comforted by people all the time and learn to get over it.
SHE’S A MONTH OLD.
He claims he read that this is a milestone she needs to accomplish at a month old. I asked for this information in writing. He claims the book he read it in, I also have. Gave him the book, he couldn’t find it.
We both have kids from a previous relationship. I took parenting classes with my first, he did not. From what I learned from my first, is that when they are a baby, they need to be comforted. They also need to have alone time, also. Which I have been doing pretty well with my newborn. Giving her both comfort and alone time in her crib. I still have to shower, cook, etc.
Anyone else feel how I do?