I(21M) love my girlfriend(28F) but supporting her is putting me into serious debt and I don’t know what to do
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I’m in a really difficult situation and I need outside perspective.
I(21M) love my girlfriend(28F) deeply, but our relationship(2 years) has become financially and emotionally draining to the point where I’m struggling to stay afloat. As I am also long distance from each other
She is currently unable to work due to circumstances outside her control, and she often tells me how sorry she is and that she feels bad about the situation. I believe her and I know she's not choosing to be in this position.
The issue is that I’ve ended up becoming her only support system. I’ve been covering all of the financial burden, and it’s gotten to the point where I’m now:
Falling behind on bills
Missing credit card payments
Going into delinquency
Building up serious debt
I’m essentially living paycheck to paycheck and sometimes not even making it through the month.
We’re barely surviving week to week.
The hardest part is that I don’t want to abandon her. I know she has no other options right now, and I’m scared that if I stop supporting her, she could end up homeless or completely alone. That fear is what’s keeping me going even though I’m struggling.
I feel stuck between:
Continuing to support her and destroying my financial future
Or pulling back and risking her ending up in a really bad situation
I don’t know what the right answer is anymore. I love her, but I’m drowning and it's no hope of we both drown
Advice?