u/Beneficial_Gur8177

I (19f) was in an unlabeled but exclusive relationship with a guy in December and in the beginning everything was fine, but then he started to continuously bring up having sex without a condom. I always said no, or maybe later if we get into a committed relationship but he continuously brought it up saying it would feel better for him and he would finish quicker. I did feel pressured but I never went through with it. There was one occasion where he came very close to penetrating me without a condom even after I repeatedly said no. During this occasion he talked about how easy it would be to just put it in but he never did. I was pretty shaken because I realized just how close he was to doing something I was very very uncomfortable with but I assumed it was fine because he didn’t actually penetrate me. That was until I told one of my friends a few months later and she brought up how messed up it was. There were other instances in our relationship where he often pressured me into doing things I wasn’t really comfortable with like video chats or other explicit content, or occasions where I never consented but I also felt like I couldn’t say no. I don’t really know what to do about this because it has been weighing on me a bit after talking about it because I don’t think I realized how bad it was, but I also feel like because I was not raped or physically forced to do something maybe I’m just overreacting. I guess I just want an outside opinion on what to do in this situation and what it is considered.