My ex girlfriend requested to follow me on Instagram yesterday. We have been apart for approximately a year and a half, after being on/off over the coarse of 4 years.
The last time I spoke with her during our final breakup, she told me that she would be blocking me from contacting her via social media, calls & texts. This is something I was aware of she did with all of her previous ex’s as she’s an obvious firm subscriber to no contact with ex’s, which is not the case for me. I have kept normal, platonic friendships with all of my previous ex girlfriends. I don’t keep in regular contact with any of them, but a “hey, how are you hope life is well” catch up every year or so. With that said, I sent her a very respectful, no pressure, open ended email back in November with no reply, I wasn’t expecting one either, she is not the emailing type like I am. I know she still has not blocked me from emailing her via Gmail.
The final breakup was mutual. I had been checked out for months, so had she. The previous breakups were her, either because of my lack of effort early on or her convinced I had a secret wife/girlfriend and she was a side, which was not or never has been the case. I don’t do that. She had been the previous recipient of infidelity in past relationships and obviously trust was an issue, I don’t blame her for that..but she never trusted me which was a contributing factor to me losing motivation. It was a toxic relationship between me and her, I’ll admit to my part. 👋
Anyway, to yesterday and today…she had been showing up in “People you may know” for a few days, with two separate accounts, one OG and the other new with no followers/activity. I let it go, was not going to request. I got a follow request, I sat on it for a couple hours and accepted and requested back, accepted..not an accidental add on her end. A couple hours later I sent a message “Hey” and changed the theme away from what it was a year and a half ago to something more..neutral. 😅 No reply. This evening I look again and I’ve been blocked again. I sent a “Hey (name)” to the new account, blocked.
What gives? I 99% was not hoping for a 5th sequel. I only was hoping to have a normal conversation and just to catch up and.. if the sun rises in the West, maybe have an acquaintance type friendship. Is this a game of Psych? Mind games? Sigh.
Ages edit: I am 39, she is 31.