u/BerryChocolate75

I'm in my 30s, 90% of my life I have been overweight, I'm at heaviest I've ever been (279 lbs), my height is 5'2 so I'm short, I have a really bad relationship with food, I'm obsessed with it, specially junk food, I want to lose weight and I don't want to lose it fast, because I want to maintain my boobs to be honest, I do want to do it for my health, to move better and to feel better and happier but I want to lose weight so badly mainly because I want to get laid! for the first time in my life.

So my question is....How long it will take for me to lose around 140 pounds?

And what would be the way to lose it?

Why do most men come back after they ghosted or blocked a woman who the only men's intention was to just have some sexting with?

What are they thinking before daring to talk again to a woman they left on the dust?

Hey Men, I'm a woman in their 30s who has never been in a relationship.

Why do most men get uncomfortable when women become infatuated or intense?

As intense, I mean really into you, caring too much for you. You care so much for him, he just use you by blocking you, then after 6 months unblocking you, then blocking you again.

In the end there's a possibility he could be a dismissive avoidant.

Buckle up! This is a long one, I haven't been on Reddit for like 4 years. English is not my main language).

I'm a woman in her 30s, I have never been in a relationship only 2 "Situationships", this story is the 2nd one.

On a holiday I met a man who works in the business industry in Las Vegas, he seemed flirty.

I became very attracted to him, I end up searching him on Instagram, we end up meeting each other online and I was the one who began to be more flirty with him a bit spicy, so we both began having some sexting, doing a couple of videocalls and after a few months he did told me some personal things from his life that you would tell only to someone you trust, not someone you are barely getting to know, but I like it, I knew he had a daughter, I mean he had his own problems, but the way he talked, he always seemed quiet chill.

During that time I met him I had some very brief chats with an old lady fan of his, just to make a friends on online, she never knew about our sexting but she end up blocking me and told him gossip about me that never happened, he got mad.

In the end I didn't reacting well, specially with my ocd, anxiety and so on, because I got paranoid becoming obsessive, begging, wanting his breadcrumbs he later on blocked me, I got obsessed with the idea of him and me, even though I could've chose the friend route since the beginning, he even disrespected me when we encountered in on Facebook where he didn't blocked me, he just restricted me and after like 6 months he unblocked me from WhatsApp and Instagram, he has 2 Instagram accounts and both are 'Private'.

I know I'm not a very stable person, but I really don't know what to think about him, because when he unblocked me he asked me for a video (you know what kind) I told him to have a raincheck on that, I don't know if he got offended because after that, he never spoke to me again, he only watched my Instagram stories.

I end up sending him some texts and I obviously disturbed his peace.

One day I decided that I couldn't handle him draining me, so I decided to unfollow him and block him. I was so sure about myself but the next day I regret it, and screwed up even more, I end up unblocking him and send him a message where I for a very unexplained reason that "I love him", he send me a text where he told me that he didn't want a relationship and that he felt uncomfortable with that text that I should 'Respect' him and blocked me for WhatsApp and Instagram again, which I never understood why because I already unfollowed him on insta and it's private, maybe for the messages. But not from his 2nd instagram that I think is more personal to him, I can still see his public posts from Facebook, I find it very odd that he blocks me from some accounts and form others doesn't.

In the end I need to keep going with my therapist to get over him and I wanted to write and rant this whole damn story to ask...

Does anyone think he's a stable man? Or am I just losing my life focusing on him?