Should I trust my gut this time, or am I just scared after a toxic relationship?
I recently came out of a toxic relationship. Deep down, I knew from the beginning that it probably wouldn’t end well, but I ignored my gut feeling and stayed for almost 4 years. Now that it’s over, I honestly feel more relieved and peaceful than sad.
The thing is, my parents have started looking for matches through arranged marriage. Yesterday, they told me about a guy and said they really liked him and his family. On paper, he seems to tick all the boxes for a good husband. But even without meeting or talking to him yet, I don’t feel fully convinced or excited about it.
I don’t think this is because I haven’t moved on from my past relationship, because emotionally I actually feel happy that it ended. What scares me is that I had the same “something feels off” feeling in my previous relationship too, and I ignored it for years.
Now I’m confused whether this is genuinely my intuition warning me again, or if I’m just being overly cautious after what I went through. Has anyone else experienced this?