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I am 24M working at a US based semiconductor company, what I work on is probably running on the phone/PC you guys might be using.

Ask me anything related to semiconductor, career, etc. Please don't ask for referrals.. I just want to spread awareness about semiconductors etc (also try out ama). I am also willing to guide people in college to learn about things related to semiconductors.

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u/BLKM4GIC — 11 hours ago

😭😭😭

I'm exhausted asf. I've had some bad experiences with friends and am almost anti-social now, i do have friends at uni, but i distance myself from them just to not get too attached. I've got like 4 friends and they've got their flaws as well, and I've been an on and off friends with one of them. recently discovered that she's a narcissist and bitching about me to my other friends, cuz she got jealous of me being close to them. like wtf. even after all that she's got the audacity to hang out with me like she always does, i tried ghosting her ( cuz ive talked too many times and it don't work) she puts on a cryshow and plays the victim. I hate my roomies too. cannot even sleep peacefully ffs. to top it off, i chose a mentally challenging degree and am getting challenged now 😭 missing my veedu and my veedu soru. my friends give me too much credit, and i feel guilty for that as well. I'm not looking for advices or shi, just wanted to rant it out to somebody that's it. atp i don't even know what's my escapism. feels like I'm stuck in a nightmare that i cannot wake up from. and the thing is, I've decided to not get attached cuz of my trauma, and i thought i was going good until this great friend of mine did her thing. it hurts like hell to be betrayed. idk ig I'm getting too emotional over nothing. maybe it's the lack of sleep that's getting to me

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u/longlungeater — 11 hours ago

Things that are being normalised even though its not right

There are a lot of things that society has normalized over time.

But just because something is common or accepted now, does that actually make it right?

What’s something that people treat as “normal” today, but you personally think shouldn’t be normalized?

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u/sam942k — 13 hours ago

4 years together, replaced within a week by someone she met on Instagram

I genuinely loved her and believed we were building a future together. We were in a relationship for 4 years, with a 7-year age gap, but that never mattered to me and her because the trust felt real.

Recently, I was going through some struggles with my intimate health and confidence. I had already started working on myself — gym, health, mindset, everything. She knew about it all and supported me through those tough moments. We even planned to get married by the end of this year.

But recently, she met a guy on Instagram. He started influencing her by saying things like, “Why be with someone 7 years older?” and “You deserve someone better.” He even mocked my personal struggles and told her he could treat her better.

Within a week, they became emotionally close and apparently fell for each other. When I confronted him, he openly told me, “I fell for her in a day. You don’t deserve her anymore. She’s with me now.”

She became emotionally distant and cold after that guy entered her life. Whenever I tried to talk or fix things, she responded very harshly. She said he is better than me in all aspects such as Govt job, age wise, property wise and even in bed.

That completely broke me. It’s been a month and I still can’t process how someone I trusted for 4 years could move on so quickly. The hardest part is feeling like I was replaced because another guy seemed “better” than me in one area of life I was already trying to improve.

I don’t know how to recover from this mentally.

How can someone fall in love with another person within a week?

Why did she choose someone new instead of fighting for us?

Why wasn’t my effort to improve enough for her to stay?

Why did she choose someone new instead of fighting for us?

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u/yrt3333 — 13 hours ago

Favourite tamil song visuals

what are your favourite tamil song visuals? for me, i really like when they show the character’s everyday life in the song instead of a random scenery where the hero and heroine is dancing. so in that criteria, my favourites are: iragai pole, enna solla, po indru neeyaga, chillena, enthaara enthaara

ps: you don’t have to like the song per se, and can watch it just for the visuals

u/sectum5empra — 16 hours ago

Went to a movie alone today.

Guyz, I had previously posted here about whether I should watch this movie alone or not. I really didn’t want to miss this movie, so I finally decided to go by myself.

Ngl, I was nervous at first. I was late by 5 mins, entered the screen awkwardly, searched for my seat like I was lost, and even asked a nearby person if I was in the right screen 😭

But honestly, it turned out to be a good experience. This was my first time going to a movie alone. As an introvert, it felt like a small achievement. Might start doing this more often to slowly get out of my social anxiety comfort zone.

https://preview.redd.it/iejovt30rh2h1.png?width=687&format=png&auto=webp&s=7e95a982e0bf20f32853ee76a306e281e375e8cb

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u/WinThis6453 — 13 hours ago
▲ 103 r/tamilyapping+1 crossposts

Milestone Day : First Paycheck Unlocked 🥳

Honestly, today is one of the happiest days of my life. I just got my first proper paycheck for a photoshoot I did for an Instagram business! It was such an amazing experience, and I learned so much along the way. To make it even better, the brand is a small, eco-friendly, sustainable business with a gorgeous Bohemian style. As a 19yr old, earning my own money for the very first time feels absolutely incredible.

​Feels surreal! Incredibly grateful. ✨✨

u/Nidhwieeeeee — 17 hours ago

Family rejecting my long-term relationship due to status differences — need advice.

I’m 28F. I come from a very affluent family in a town. My dad is a well-known businessman and growing up it was always just the four of us — my mom, dad, younger brother, and me. We were very close.

Back in 2021, my parents started looking for a groom because they felt I had reached the age to get married. They found someone from an extremely wealthy and respected family. I wasn’t interested initially, but my parents encouraged me to meet him.

His family was surprisingly modern. They said we should date, get to know each other, and only decide if we genuinely wanted marriage.

So I trusted my parents and agreed.

We started talking and dating.

Then suddenly my mom changed.

She’s very religious and later said astrology didn’t match and that God had shown signs that this marriage shouldn’t happen. But this happened after encouraging me into the relationship and after months of involvement.

For almost 1.5–2 years, I tried everything. My dad argued, I argued, we tried to make it work. My mom avoided conversations, gave silent treatment, insulted their family, refused to move things forward, and slowly stopped the wedding from every direction.

What hurt me wasn’t rejection.

It was being asked to open my heart and then being told to shut it because someone changed their mind.

That phase broke me.

I was depressed for almost a year.

Around that time, I started my master’s in Chennai.

Then I met my current boyfriend.

And for the first time in my life, I felt what it meant to receive love instead of always giving.

He’s genuinely one of the kindest people I know. No bad habits. Self-made. Works abroad. Emotionally mature. During one of the hardest phases of my life, he was there.

Meanwhile, my family was going through a lot too. My younger brother struggled with addiction and had to go to rehab. My parents almost separated. Everything felt unstable.

During all this, my dad kept telling me:
“If you love someone and he’s a good person, marry him. Even if he earns less, it’s okay.”

So I believed him.

We’ve been together for 3 years now.

When my parents first met my boyfriend, he wasn’t running any business. He was just working.

My dad told me:
“I raised my daughter in a certain lifestyle. Will she be able to adjust and live differently?”

And honestly… I took that seriously.

I worked on myself.

I started working. I became more independent. My boyfriend also started building something of his own. I wasn’t expecting luxury — I was mentally preparing myself to adjust and build a life together.

During all this, my dad kept saying:
“At least I’ll get you married. We’ll make it happen.”

So I waited.

I gave them time.

But now everything has changed.

Now they completely reject the relationship.

They’re asking me to sign a bond paper saying there is nothing related between me and them.

My boyfriend’s family even came respectfully and spoke. They said if my parents didn’t agree, they wouldn’t force anything — but if we chose each other, they wouldn’t create problems either.

I thought maybe things would settle.

So I waited again.

Two more years.

All I wanted was acceptance.

Then eventually I reduced my expectations.

I told my parents:
I don’t need jewels.
I don’t need money.
I don’t need you to spend for my wedding.

I just want you to come.

Just come and attend.

That’s all I asked.

But instead things became worse.

They emotionally pressure me and tell me:
“If you marry him, don’t come back to this house.”
“We’ll cut ties with you.”
“Forget him — in a few months you’ll move on.”
“We’ll find you a better groom.”
“Other girls do this all the time.”

They keep saying I’ll forget this relationship if I marry someone richer and that this is normal.

That broke me.

Because I don’t understand why I have to stop loving someone just because he doesn’t come from the same financial background.

My younger brother is also supporting them. He’s a lawyer and instead of helping me, he keeps fueling things between me, my mom, and my dad. Nobody in my family is standing beside me.

And that’s what hurts.

Not that they said no.

But that I feel completely alone.

Now I’m 28.

My boyfriend is 31.

I love my parents deeply.

I also love the person I chose.

And I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
And the hardest part is… I don’t think they reject him because he’s a bad person.

If I’m being honest, it feels like they reject him because he doesn’t come from the same financial background as us, doesn’t have the same social status, and isn’t from our caste.
That’s what hurts the most.

Because if he was cruel, irresponsible, or treated me badly, I would understand their fear.
But he’s not.
He’s kind, respectful, self-made, and has stood by me through some of the hardest years of my life.

Sometimes it feels like who he is matters less than where he comes from.

How long do you wait for acceptance before you start living your own life?

Has anyone gone through something similar? Did your family eventually accept? Or did you have to choose?

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u/PuzzledMine9227 — 13 hours ago

Am I the Only One?

When I get bored, overwhelmed I sit on my desk and start doing some work. Put something in action.
I’m given a weird look when I said this to my fellow people.
Am I the only one behaving like this?

View Poll

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u/VersionCareful2412 — 14 hours ago

Guys....en kavithai eppdi irukunu sollungee

To a Boy, From a Soft Girl

I wore your name like a love locket
close to my heartbeat -
golden, sacred, eternal.

But time has cruel hands.
It turned every memory of you
into a fragile souvenir
that breaks each time I touch it

I wish someone would hold my shaking thoughts
and whisper softly:

“You will rise beyond the weight
they tried to place on your shoulders.
You are beautiful
in every shape your soul survives in.
Do not let people
who are strangers to self-love
teach you what love should feel like.

Because control is not devotion.
Possession is not protection.
And needing you
is not the same as loving you.”

And somewhere between
my forever
and your temporary,
“we” disappeared.

When did 'us' became only 'me'?

Maybe It was from the first...until I realised the player was only u...and not me.. .......

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u/Inevitable_Swan_9524 — 15 hours ago

Rejected, Yet Relieved...

I’m a guy in my early 20s, and on my first day at work I met a girl and instantly liked her. I’m very introverted and scared of rejection, so I never told her how I felt. A year passed without seeing her, but a few days ago I met her again by chance. The moment we talked, I realized I still felt the same way.

That night I couldn’t sleep because I regretted never confessing. The next day, I decided to finally tell her. By coincidence, I found her sitting alone and said, “I liked you from the first day I saw you, but I was too scared to tell you. Seeing you again made me realize those feelings never went away. Would you like to go out for a coffee sometime?”

She replied, “As a friend, yes — but nothing more than that.” I told her that was okay and that I didn’t want our friendship to become awkward. We then talked normally for another 15 minutes.

Honestly, I felt happy afterward because I no longer had the regret of staying silent. My friend later told me I confessed too early and should’ve gotten to know her better first, but I felt it was better to be honest about my intentions instead of hiding them. What is your opinion guys what I did was correct or in any way I may did better, I want your opinion guys. Rephrased using AI

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u/VJbharath — 16 hours ago

Not been in a relationship is a red flag?

Hi Makkale. M23 here.

naa recent ah oru reel patha, adhu dhan mandila oditte irukku. Adhula never been in a relationship is a red flag, nu sonnaga.

And here I am. Never been in a relationship. Scl la obese ah irundha, faced bullying, people will make fun of me. So love set aagadhu nu naane odhungita. Friends um set aagala. In clg, nalla frnds kadachanga, final year la junior ponna one side la love panna, confess panna, but she is not interested nu soltu poita.

Ippo gym ku poi odamba oru alavukku fit aakita. paaka konjam nalla vum irupen. Work la um endha ponnu mela um feelings varala. Endha ponnukum en mela feelings varala. love varala, yena love eh varala. Idhu epdi red flag aagum? konjam sollitu ponga.

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u/_Innocent_devil — 19 hours ago

HIT or SHIT ?

Yaarachu paathingala itha, though it has some bold scenes kadhaya paaathalume nallarukunu solranga, any reviews ?

u/Flaky_Elk_4585 — 18 hours ago