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Hey everyone. Some of you might remember my previous post here where I asked what Tamil people actually think about trans girls. I honestly wasn't expecting 14K views and that many comments. Ivlo per paapanga nu nenakkave illa. But I was really happy to see that the comments were positive.

When many people hear “transgender”, the first image that comes to their mind is usually the hijra/thirunangai communities that they see in public spaces railway stations, buses, traffic signals etc. And honestly, I understand why. They are one of the most visible transgender communities in our society, and they also have a long cultural history in India. For many people, that's simply the only exposure they've ever had to transgender people.

But there's another side that isn't as visible.

There are trans girls like me who grow up in mainstream society, go to regular schools and colleges, live with their families, work, date, and basically live an ordinary life. You could probably meet someone like that every day and never know that they're trans. You might have met a trans person and never even known it.

That's what I mean when I sometimes describe myself as a “modern trans girl”. It's not an official category, its just I like to see me as that way, and also another controversial take, I don't like this "thirunangai" label too. I know why that term was invented, it is a respectful term because trans women were called many derogatory slurs before. Na oru ponnu avlo dha, I'm one of the girls. I'm not some separate category. That's how I want people to see me.

And just to be VERY clear, I'm not saying anything bad about hijra/thirunangai or traditional third-gender communities. They have faced and continue to face so many struggles just to live, and I have nothing but respect for them. Their experiences are real and valid.

I'm just saying that my life and experience are different from theirs.

And this isn't just about lifestyle either. People also seem to have a very specific idea of what a trans person is supposed to LOOK like. Some think a trans woman must have certain masculine features, dress a certain way, behave a certain way, or that you should be able to identify someone as trans just by looking at them. That's simply not how it works. You can meet a trans person and have absolutely no idea that they're trans.

The thing that bothers me is that even supportive and educated people sometimes make assumptions like this. And honestly, it's annoying.

For example, I was once talking to my mom about trans people and she casually said something like, “Trans people don't get married, right?” And I was just sitting there thinking... how did we arrive at that conclusion?

I don't expect everyone to know everything about trans people. What annoys me is when people make assumptions about our lives instead of simply asking.

I don't want being trans to become my entire identity. I want to study, get a job, have friends, fall in love (someday), and just live my life like everyone else.

Being trans is a part of my life. It isn't the whole thing.

And the reason I have made this whole rant is one thing I've been struggling with is this feeling that I constantly have to explain myself before people can simply see me as a girl.

I know a lot of people already get what I mean, and I'm glad you do. This is mainly for the people who don't, because I just wish I didn't have to explain it every time.

So, that's the rant. Thanks for reading, guys. 🫶

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it's my frnds story please ellarum judge pannunga avala 🙏🏼😭

She used to have one guy frnd one year ah pesuranga they both have oru maari feelings but andha payan openly said I am not correct one for u ,so let's be frnds u are the only female frnd I talk with full comfortable nu but my frnd (she ) likes him very much and loving him

Oru 2 months semester holidays mudincha apro she got committed with another guy he was a nice guy I too talked with him looks gentle and romba open type literally he liked his gf talking with other guys tbh enaku avana paatha cuck bf maari feel aachu because of his behaviour

She was my room mate dha they used to talk after 8.30 after dinner na thoongura vara around 11 vara pesuvanga after that Idk one day speaker la potu pesuna i heard 2 boys talking adangotha nu irundhuchu literally ena pesuranganu katey like rendu perum oru maari flirt pannindha pesunanga

Next day ava kitta openah katey rendu pasanga sound ketuchu yaarunu she said onu bf inum onu andha old guy firend nu then avaley sonna his bf is not a red flag yarachum enna admire panna avanuku pudikum nu "literally adhana cuck" nu manasula nanachukitey that guy firend mela she has some kind of feelings but she openly that to his bf so avanga couple ah andha payan use panikurom nu sonna

ipo yen doubt enna na this girl mela dha thappa or his bf or that guy firend how can a guy friend do this with losing his dignity even though he knows she was already committed and he is not ready for love but searching for hole nu ?

Sorry for long para 😭🙏🏼

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Wish I can disappear like this someday 🦚

So, I turned 20 last month. Honestly, it was a pretty difficult time for me because something happened in my personal life, and because of that, I didn’t really celebrate my birthday or do anything special.But turning 20 felt like a big milestone to me. It’s the first time I’m officially out of my teenage years, and I always imagined doing something meaningful when I reached 20. Instead, the day just passed by.

Now I’m thinking about making up for it somehow, even if it’s a little late.

For those of you who are in your 20s or have already been through them, what do you think someone should experience or do between 20 and 25?What did you do during those years? What do you wish you had done? And is there anything you feel like you missed out on?

I’d genuinely love to hear your experiences, advice, regrets, or even random things you think everyone should try in their 20s.

Na 2 , 3 startups ku interview ponen anga avanga client projects work pannithu irundhaanga . Ellar laptop layum coding agent irukku. Ellarum vibe code panni dhan project pannuraanga. Unga company layum apadi . Senior devs neenga upto yendha level varaikum unga project aah vibe pannirukeenga

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Saw this at the MMDA signal near Arumbakkam Metro Station. Why is this kind of inhumane manual work still being done when machines could be used instead?

Can’t we move towards safer and more humane methods of doing this?

What exact moment you felt that? Still do you crave for it??

So I was in anna nagar tower park a few days before and I was minding my business there writing something in my notes and listening to music then a frnds gang came to sit on the stairs I was sitting on...and when they saw me they made the "ick" face with a look I can't forget... Ik I'm below avg guy that doesn't mean I can't sit there and mind my business.. the look is being in my head for a few days and just now freshly cried and writing this up ! Just wanted to rant that's all have a great day