u/jie_sang

This is something I've been wanting to get off my chest for a long time.

I'm a closeted trans girl from Tamil Nadu.

First of all, I have nothing but respect for the word "Thirunangai" and for the trans women who proudly identify with it. I know it's a respectful Tamil word, and I have immense respect for the marginalized trans women in India, especially those who have faced discrimination, poverty, and social exclusion. This post is not meant to criticize them in any way.

But personally I don't like calling myself a Thirunangai.

Maybe this sounds weird or even controversial, but it genuinely hurts in a way I can't fully explain.

If I'm a girl, why can't I just be called a girl?

That's honestly all I want.

My dream isn't to be known as "the trans girl." My dream is to simply be seen as another girl. I don't want people to immediately put me into a separate category or picture stereotypes the moment they hear I'm trans.

I mean there are trans women and trans men but not many tamil people know about it,

Sometimes it feels like the moment people hear "trans woman," they stop seeing the "woman" part.

For me, being a trans girl doesn't mean I want to be treated as something different from other girls. It simply means I'm a girl whose journey happened to be different.

That's why I don't personally like calling myself Thirunangai, and I don't really like being referred to that way either. Not because there's anything wrong with the word or with the trans women who proudly use it, but because, for me, it feels like I'm being placed in a separate category instead of simply being seen as a girl.

One day, I hope to blend into society so naturally that people don't think of me as "the trans girl." They just see a girl. That's all I've ever wanted.

Na oru ponnu who happens to be trans, thats how I like to call myself. Ennaku na oru ponnu nu realise pannadhu la irundhe indha thought iruku. Na yaarayum offend pannira kudadhu nu dha na idha pathi post panla.

Does anyone else feel this way, or am I the only one?

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Hey everyone.

I'm a trans girl from India, and I've honestly been struggling with something for a while now.

Recently I've been seeing a lot of "girls only" spaces online (like on Instagram), and every time I see them, I end up wondering, "Would I actually be welcome there?" It's something that keeps bothering me more than I'd like to admit.

I'm attaching a screenshot of a comment I came across under an LGBTQ-friendly post. I know it's just one person's opinion, but reading it really hurt. It brought back all those doubts again.

My friend has been incredibly supportive and has helped me feel more confident in myself lately, but then I read comments like this and I feel like I'm back at square one.

So I wanted to ask the women here, especially cis women, but I'd love to hear from everyone.

If you saw a trans girl in a girls-only space, would you see me as someone who belongs there? Or would you feel uncomfortable with her being there?

I genuinely want to understand how women here feel, because I've been carrying this fear around for a long time.

I'm not trying to start an argument or a debate. I'm just looking for honest perspectives because this has been weighing on me.

Thank you for reading. ❤️

I don't even know how to explain this properly, but I really need to get it off my chest.

I'm a closeted trans girl in my second year of college, and for a long time I've had this weird emotional reaction whenever I see lesbians being sexualized. It happens online all the time, and now it happened in real life too.

Today, a group of boys in my class were all watching lesbian porn together. They were talking about scissoring and laughing about it like it was the funniest thing ever. I just felt sick. I can't even explain why it hit me so hard, but it completely ruined my mood.

The thing is, these same people are openly homophobic, transphobic and sexist. They casually make transphobic slurs and jokes in class, so hearing them talk about lesbians like that just made everything worse. It feels like I don't belong here at all.

I don't know why this affects me so much. I'm a trans lesbian, so maybe that's part of it, but I genuinely don't know. Every time I see lesbian relationships reduced to porn or treated like they're just there for straight men to fantasize about, something in me just hurts. It's honestly one of the strongest emotional triggers I have, and I can't even put into words why. I've spent so much time trying to understand it, but I still can't.

I know not every man is like this, but after seeing it so much online and then hearing it in my own classroom, it sometimes feels like I can't escape it.

Sometimes I look at LGBTQ+ communities online and see people who are kind and respectful, and I honestly wish I were surrounded by people like that instead. Instead, I spend most of my time around people who joke about queer people or treat lesbian relationships like a category of porn.

I'm definitely not saying all men are like this. I'm just trying to explain why this hurts me so much. I feel like I'm the only person who reacts this strongly, and it makes me feel really alone.

Has anyone else, especially other lesbians or trans lesbians, experienced something similar? Or am I just overreacting? I'd really appreciate hearing other people's perspectives because I honestly don't know how to deal with these feelings anymore.

Hey guys 👋

First time posting here, kinda curious ngl ✨

I'm a trans girl from Tamil Nadu and currently in 2nd year of college.

I'm still closeted btw, so not many people know irl 😭 I've always been curious about something. What do you guys actually think about trans girls? Like genuinely. I've seen a lot of opinions online, but I've never really asked fellow Tamils directly before. And before anyone imagines anything, I'm literally just an ordinary girl trying to survive college. I am just curious about the vibe here. Anyways that's the post Have a nice day 🫶

P.S. I'm open to respectful questions if anyone has any. I'd rather answer than have people assume stuff 🙏