u/honeypie15

I kinda feel like im getting comfortable and closer to someone ...but i dont really know what that feeling is....i wanted to know another human's opinion!

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I went to meet a friend who had come home from her hostel. She has a little niece, probably in LKG or UKG. Really talkative kid, i know her from her very little age ( when she was a baby)

We went out to eat and I was feeding her for a bit. At one point, I gave her food from my spoon and she just… refused. I didn’t think too much into it because kids can be weird about stuff like that.But then I noticed she was totally fine eating from my other friend’s spoon.

That’s when my friend told me, very casually, that the kid doesn’t like people who are dark. She prefers fair people.I didn’t even know what to say. It just felt… off.

And then later, while we were waiting for my dad to pick me up, the kid asked me, What is your dad’s color?. Is he dark like you?That honestly hit me.i didnt show any reactions thou...i did tell my frd to stop talking about fairness all the time

I wasn’t angry at her. She’s just a kid. But that’s exactly what made it worse. No one is born thinking like that. She’s learning it somewhere, probably at home.The thing is, her family is already fair. But they’re always talking about getting tanned, not glowing enough, wanting to be even fairer. It’s such a normal topic for them that even a small kid has picked it up and turned it into how she sees people.

I’ve heard comments about skin color before, but this felt different. Maybe because it was so casual. Like it’s just… normal.I don’t know. It just made me feel really weird and sad, and I didn’t really have anyone to talk to about it.

If someone is extroverted, people act like being loud and social is the best thing ever. If someone is introverted, suddenly being quiet becomes a whole personality trait too. It’s like everything has to become a debate about which type of person is better....

And it’s not even just about personality. People romanticize being sad, emotionally unavailable, lonely, or mentally drained like it’s something aesthetic now. Meanwhile, being positive or simply enjoying life is treated like it’s fake or weird. *and they also act like hey ennaku thaa nariya kashtam and sogam irku ungaluku laam ethum ila ...

Even in real life, I notice people constantly finding flaws in things that don’t even concern them. Someone likes going out too much, someone talks too much, someone is too quiet, someone is too happy, someone posts too much , there’s always something.

I just don’t get why everything needs an opinion attached to it.

If you like something, like it. If you don’t, move on. Not everything needs criticism, commentary, or judgment.

I use public transport pretty often, and lately I’ve been noticing a big difference between the free buses, the regular paid ones (red buses), and the blue electric buses. And honestly, something feels off with the electric ones.

First thing ... the attitude. Not everyone, but a lot of the drivers and conductors in these blue buses act like they’re above everyone else. Like they’re doing us a favor by letting us travel, instead of just doing their job. It’s really uncomfortable as a passenger.

I’ve also seen so many unnecessary situations on the road. Not big accidents, but things like aggressive overtaking, blocking other buses, even small collisions like side mirrors hitting. One time I was in an electric bus, and a free bus overtook it. Instead of just moving on, our driver overtook again and literally stopped the bus in front of it for like 15 minutes and even said (free bus ootra neeye ipdi pesura smthg like that to the free bus driver ) . Everyone inside was frustrated and shouting because we all had places to be. It just felt so childish.

And don’t even get me started on the change issue. If a ticket is ₹16, how are people supposed to have exact change every single time? And when we don’t, the attitude we get from some conductors is just unnecessary.

Also, the overspeeding is actually scary. Some of these buses go really fast, and especially during rainy weather, it feels unsafe. I’ve genuinely felt nervous sitting inside because of how fast they’re driving, like there’s no concern for passenger comfort or safety.

And this might sound small, but the overall vibe matters. In the regular red buses, things just feel… normal. Better airflow, less tension, people are more cooperative. But in some electric buses, it just feels stressful for no reason.

Another thing I’ve noticed .....it feels like the number of free buses has reduced a lot. There was so much talk about free travel for women and accessibility, but now it feels like for every 10 electric buses, there are barely one or two free buses. If that’s true, then what’s even the point of announcing these schemes if people can’t actually rely on them?

I’m not against electric buses at all ,YES they’re a great step forward. But what’s the use if the overall experience just becomes worse for passengers?

Just wanted to know if others feel the same or if it’s just me noticing all this.

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I use public transport pretty often, and lately I’ve been noticing a big difference between the free buses, the regular paid ones (red buses), and the blue electric buses. And honestly, something feels off with the electric ones.

First thing ... the attitude. Not everyone, but a lot of the drivers and conductors in these blue buses act like they’re above everyone else. Like they’re doing us a favor by letting us travel, instead of just doing their job. It’s really uncomfortable as a passenger.

I’ve also seen so many unnecessary situations on the road. Not big accidents, but things like aggressive overtaking, blocking other buses, even small collisions like side mirrors hitting. One time I was in an electric bus, and a free bus overtook it. Instead of just moving on, our driver overtook again and literally stopped the bus in front of it for like 15 minutes and even said (free bus ootra neeye ipdi pesura smthg like that to the free bus driver ) . Everyone inside was frustrated and shouting because we all had places to be. It just felt so childish.

And don’t even get me started on the change issue. If a ticket is ₹16, how are people supposed to have exact change every single time? And when we don’t, the attitude we get from some conductors is just unnecessary.

Also, the overspeeding is actually scary. Some of these buses go really fast, and especially during rainy weather, it feels unsafe. I’ve genuinely felt nervous sitting inside because of how fast they’re driving, like there’s no concern for passenger comfort or safety.

And this might sound small, but the overall vibe matters. In the regular red buses, things just feel… normal. Better airflow, less tension, people are more cooperative. But in some electric buses, it just feels stressful for no reason.

Another thing I’ve noticed .....it feels like the number of free buses has reduced a lot. There was so much talk about free travel for women and accessibility, but now it feels like for every 10 electric buses, there are barely one or two free buses. If that’s true, then what’s even the point of announcing these schemes if people can’t actually rely on them?

I’m not against electric buses at all ,YES they’re a great step forward. But what’s the use if the overall experience just becomes worse for passengers?

Just wanted to know if others feel the same or if it’s just me noticing all this.