How to deal with Butsukari Otoko
I’m a 5’0” Asian female live in Japan (Tokyo) since 4 years ago. I’m constantly a target of ぶつかり男s. Well other than these pathetic males some old ladies tend to do this to me, too. Half of the time I chased them right after and kicked back. And half of those times they would back off, but if it escalated to a fight I usually don’t win (they don’t win either). I was so pissed today because I was shoulder checked two days in a row. If I’m a tall woman or a strong gym guy I don’t ask this I’d just kick their ass every single time. But I’m too short for that. So my question is should I just work on myself and try to be as indifferent as possible and as neutral as possible? Is it the best solution? Sometimes I just can’t bear it so I fight back. But today it ended up with one of my piercing bled and infected so I want to seek another way to get peace out of myself.
It frustrates me so much as recently I’m trying hard to get my shit together through meditation, body weight training, etc. and such a random thing can wipe out my effort and I immediately lose my inner peace and reasoning and do stupid things like this knowing I’m putting my safety at risk. Sometimes I just wish I was a physically tall and strong person so karma can do its thing.
If you guys say that ignoring it and moving on is the best way to deal with it for my own sake, I will accept my fate as a small person and be working hard on myself to not be so reactive. If there’s a way to justify me fighting back I’ll take my piercings out wait them to heal completely and continue to fight back every time I get targeted.