AITA for telling my daughter her separation was her fault?
I55M have a daughter25F. My daughter is currently going through a separation, that I truthfully think could have been avoided. They were a great couple, have 2 young children together. They’ve been married 4 years. He is a decent guy.
My daughter was a SAHM, but then she began working nights. She had fully lied to her husband about her job, and it had came out that she was stripping. She had been doing this for months. This obviously led to issues in their marriage and they are currently on a separation, but hoping to repair.
My daughter was over at my house, and she was crying about it. I comforted her when it all happened, and have been a helping hand of course, but she has a why me attitude with certain things. I had told her I was sorry, but this really was her fault. She was asking me how it was her fault, and I told her she could have gotten a different night job, or she could have just not lied about it. She tried telling me the explanation, and then was even more upset I said it was her fault.
She said that she didn’t know how I could say that to her, and if that’s how I felt why didn’t I say it sooner. She ended up leaving my home. My wife is mad at me as well for upsetting her. It’s been a few days, and she is usually here a few days during the week with the kids and has not yet. AITA
Add: The reasoning for her working was because their twins started head start this year. She told me herself the stripping was easy good money.