u/Best_Pianist_1673

it’s been 9 months since we broke up. Together for years.

We plan on talking in a few days, they dumped me and I did a lot of internal work to heal/focus on myself. It got pretty toxic and even though we loved each other, they couldn’t handle the stress anymore. I don’t blame them, I begged at first but then started working on moving forward. it was hard for both of us. I ended up moving to a different state because I realized I paused my life to be with them. I’m not sure what we’ll talk about or how who they are now and I’m very nervous. They told me to move on but would reach out every so often telling me they “hope we’ll be best friends again.” or stuff like thanking me for things I did

Does anyone have any advice or their own experiences with talking to an ex months after the breakup?

Together for years, it’s been 8 months since we split. the break up was so hard, we both were in pain.

We have been in very very low NC for the entire time until recently they asked to talk, I agreed. We plan on talking next week, Im so nervous. I keep trying to refocus but I feel like I’m in limbo now. I don’t know what they want or if they even want anything.

things were tough, we were toxic. It feels so weird. I’ve changed a lot, I have no clue what they’re up to. They mentioned they have been working on their life. I hope they’re doing better.

I don’t know what to expect. Nothing? I guess. Ik we both rly loved each other, it ended due to the toxic cycle we were stuck in. I begged HARD when they broke up with me. They told me it was over for good and to move on, so I did. I moved to a new state, focusing on my life, working on my mental health, finding myself, made new friends, and still a tiny part of me misses them, hoping they miss me too.