Advice wanted!
Not really sure what I’m asking for here other than maybe to know I’m not alone — and maybe hear from people who’ve felt this way and what helped.
I have a genuinely good life. My husband and I actually like each other, he’s a great dad, we have two little boys (3 and 4), we live by the beach, and we both do well financially. We struggled with fertility for years to have this life, so I know how lucky I am.
But lately I just feel so tired. Not physically tired so much as emotionally tired from always being “on.” Everyone seems to think I’m supermom, the life of the party, the one who can handle everything, and honestly I’m exhausted from being that person all the time.
Our kids are at school until 5 and in bed by 7, so part of me feels guilty even saying any of this. Like, how is it so hard to be fully present for two hours? And when I do take time for myself, the guilt almost consumes me anyway.
I think maybe after years of being a type-A overachiever and working so hard for every version of this life, I suddenly don’t want to strive all the time anymore. I just want space to relax, be quiet, and exist without constantly feeling needed or “on.”
Has anyone else gone through this? Did anything actually help? Therapy, meds, boundaries, more alone time, changing routines… I honestly don’t even know what I need right now.