How do you get over a fear that could actually happen.
I have struggled with ocd ever since I was a child.
I got over all previous obsession simply by realising that what I was avoiding through compulsions, was either completely out of my control, so not even worth doing compulsions about, while other things were in fact in my control, but in the end the compulsions to avoid those things were more exhausting than the thing possibly actually happening, so I was able to let go of those compulsions and with them the fears kind of disappeared. some of the things I feared even happened to me and I’m fine.
but whenever I get over an obsession, a new one pops up, and my most recent one, just won’t leave me alone and it’s been years.
the thing I’m scared of can be kept under control by me, but the price is that my life is ruined, because I spend most of my awake time doing stuff to avoid it, and it puts so many limitations to my life. in this case I just can’t tell myself that the compulsions are ruining my life more than the thing I fear, like I did with past obsessions, because yes, the compulsions are in fact ruining my life, but the thing I fear would ruin my life even more, and without the chance to go back. I don’t want to say what it is because I don’t want to scare people who read this, but it’s something real and there’s people who got their life ruined because of it.
whenever I see other people risking this same thing I’m afraid of, I either think they’re non chalantly doing something to avoid it while I don’t see, or that they have some kind of luck that protects them, that I don’t have.
I feel stuck and completely unable to do ERP about this. I know that without erp the fear will never go away, but I kind of don’t want the fear to go away cause I don’t want to let my guard down. but I don’t even want to live like this. but I don’t even want what I fear to happen to me.