how do i go about telling people?
before reading this post i would recommend reading my first post on this sub, as that will provide a bit of additional context. ahead is a mix of an update and a few questions i have about leaving.
the abuse and cheating has really only worsened as time has gone on. after we graduated college, my partner and i moved to a larger city about an hour away because they got an internship in that city. we are likely only living in this city until their internship ends, which will be in august. the move to this city happened literally two days after we graduated, and it happened kind of on a whim, so its not like i had much opportunity to leave then.
yesterday was an extremely rough day for me; it was supposed to be the first day of my new internship back in my college's city, but when i made the long journey over there, i was told the position doesn't actually exist. as i cannot drive and my partner needs their car for their internship, i spent basically all day getting between the cities via public transit. i was extremely tired and crushed that i no longer had work for the summer. right before i went to bed, i also found out my partner had recently cheated on me three separate times with online friends. i have not yet confronted them about this.
ive had a few 'breaking point' moments in the past, but now ive decided that i truly cannot take it anymore and want to make a proper plan to leave. our lease in this new city is up in late august, so i figured my best (and easiest) option would be to leave then.
another issue is im probably gonna need help leaving. i have a few people in mind: my mom, my two closest friends from my hometown, and two or three close friends i met in college. my mom wouldnt be a bad option because shes hinted that she would help me if i needed it, but that would also probably involve me telling her about my recent move (she did know about it, but wasnt thrilled because its a bit far from the internship i was going to do). my two old friends wouldnt be a bad option either because they dont know my partner, but ive barely spoken to them since 2023 due to my partner controlling my communication with them. my college friends im the iffiest about telling because they are just as close -- if not closer -- with my partner, and me confiding in them could cause more harm than good.
i guess im not sure who to tell and how to even begin those conversations. im terrified of this backfiring and/or creating even more problems. who should i tell and how?