Love this community ! I’d like to be more outspoken.
I will probably start by telling too much about myself, so I’ll try my best not to . 🤣 I’m 50. I have spent YEARS in therapy trying to manage my anxiety and depression, and OCD. To find out last year it’s actually ADHD. I got meds and all that noise is now gone. I feel better then ever, except, I have found out that I had no boundaries. There are a few narcissists in my family and I’ve had to draw strict lines around them. I’m much better but I found out that I get infuriated now when I feel someone is crossing my boundaries. Even like driving. So I’d like to be more outspoken. My brain thinks it’s conflict even if I just tell someone what I want/need. I can be passive/aggressive but I’d just like to be able to say what I want in the first place. I had wicked social anxiety till the adhd meds, so I’m just getting used to socializing like a normal person now.
I must also add, I’m a helper. I used to be a nurse and I can’t help having an insane amount of empathy/sympathy for people who seem to need help. I sometimes go too far, ( I have a disability, ) and try to help people beyond what I’m capable of. I think this ties in with my issue.
I’d like any tips or suggestions. Maybe books ? I have a therapist and we are working on that too. I wanted some real life advice though too. 😊Thanks.