Need advice: Am I ignoring major red flags or just overthinking?
I met a guy about a month ago on matrimony app. My plan was to date him few months and see where it goes, and eventually get engaged if things are great. We’ve only met once in person because I invited him for a date just to meet and exhange few details about us in general and we text regularly. Very early on, he started calling me “wife,” saying “I love you” constantly, and acting very emotionally attached. At first I thought maybe he was just expressive.
But then he asked me for ₹2k saying he had a bank re-KYC issue and was admitted to hospital for couple of days, so i just lent the money without asking much. Recently, he also suggested I take a personal loan on my name from an instant loan app because apparently it could help him “save tax.” He even said a CA suggested it.
What confuses me is that he also claims:
- he worked at Tesla and UBS,
- is foreign-return,
- has multiple properties in India,
- has a startup,
- and is a single child whose parents passed away in an accident.
Part of me feels bad for doubting someone who may have gone through a lot. But another part of me feels the emotional intensity + money requests + loan discussion this early is not normal.
I haven’t given any loan or major financial help and currently plan to observe his behavior for another month before deciding whether to back off completely.
Am I being too cautious, or are these genuine red flags?