Bottom that no longer wants to bottom?
To preface I’m 32 and my husband is 42. We’ve been together going on 12 years. Our marriage and relationship is great! Neither of us have any complaints as far as that goes. He is strictly a top and I’ve always been strictly a bottom. I did try topping a few times when first coming out but didn’t like it and he did the same with bottoming and again didn’t like it.
Recently over the past year I have lost all interest in bottoming. I no longer enjoy it at all and most times it feels uncomfortable (no pain but definitely no enjoyment) so we have been mainly doing 69 and frotting as we both enjoy that. But that doesn’t always feel like enough. Both of us have had frustration with each other as I am no longer “putting out” and he is unwilling to bottom for me. What he describes when he bottoms is the same weird discomfort I have started feeling but also pain so I can’t really fault him for not wanting to do I t.
Neither of us want to open the relationship as we feel like we might get hurt by it… but I am just afraid that the frustration will get worse for both of us. I would NEVER tell him this but at times I bottom and put on a show just to keep the peace because I don’t want to lose him! I know that’s not what I should do for me but idk what else to do. Has anyone had this sort of position shift happen? And what would you guys suggest we do to get past this?
Edit: We have talked about this openly and he knows that I don’t enjoy bottoming like I used to. I assume when I do bottom for him he just thinks I must be feeling up to it that day. It’s never pressured and we have communicated these changes/issues with each other.