u/BigJawiwi

I was explicitly told by a mod "You described a man who makes bad calls and talks you into them, and you tied that to ADHD. That is the offense. ADHD is not a character flaw. It is not a shorthand for unreliable, untrustworthy, or bad at judgment. Plenty of us live with it and make sound decisions every day. Asking this community to help you manage a partner whose judgment you do not trust, under our banner, treats the disorder as the explanation for who he is. It is not." which, forgive me if it comes off that way, is not what I meant at all?? I just wanted advice on how THE BOTH OF US can walk the slippery rope of knowing when he's coming out of a place of genuine understanding or impulsive confidence.

If anybody feels like what I said *is* wrong, I'd appreciate the constructive criticism, cuz what the hell was that...? ☹️

Hello, I'm almost 20(F) at this point. Was finally diagnosed with depression my last year of high-school and barely got my diploma. I was so burntout I was almost sure I'd never want to get higher education. Now over 18 months after graduating and never having a proper job, I find myself actually wanting to continue an education. It's hard for me to actually find the motivation or the appeal in anything still, but I've convinced myself Psychology is the thing I want to spend the next 5 years of my life learning about and that I'll have to stick with it.

The thing is... I've no idea what to do. The moment I turned 18 I left my country (Chile) to move in with my boyfriend in Florida (I know, risky, but he was my best friend of 5 years and I'm still very happy with my decision, no regrets). We are now married and surprise... he's the only one that can work, so we rent a room at a boarding house living off minimum wage. I don't want to spend any of his money in my education since we are barely saving to begin with, and my uncle back in Chile is very willing to pay for my education since he doesn't want me to end like my father and actually get a degree. But the conversation rate from CLP to USD isn't good, so I still wouldn't want to spend anything more than 25k to get a bachelor's which I'm not even sure is possible in America...

I've already tried looking into online chilean colleges but it all goes nowhere or I get no messages back, and from what I've looked into, something i could do is go into community college and then switch into a bachelor program but I have no idea how that works either! I'm just very lost in how any of these things work so I feel stuck, but I WANT to do something with my time, while my husband works his ass off just to feed me and give me a place to stay, while all i do is sit home and cook for him sometimes... I want to do something worth everyone's investment in me...

Got banned off r/ADHD for asking for advice, feel like I'm going crazy

Have done nothing since graduating high school, want to figure out how to start doing something with my life