First time firing someone. The conversation is in 2 weeks and I am dreading it?
Have to let go of an employee. He's been with us 14 months. The work has been declining for 6 months. Three documented conversations with no real improvement. Decision is right. Execution is going to be brutal.
What I'm scared of.
The conversation. I've never done this before. I'm worried I'll either be too soft (and leave him confused about what just happened) or too direct (and crush him unnecessarily).
The team reaction. He is well-liked. The team doesn't see what I see in his work. I expect questions, possibly anger, possibly people questioning whether they're next.
The legal exposure. We're at-will, severance isn't required, but I know almost nothing about the claims a former employee can make and I don't want to learn the hard way.
The week after. Multiple founders have told me the week after firing someone is one of the worst weeks of running a business. I believe them. I don't know how to brace.
For folks who have fired their first employee - what would you tell yourself before doing it.
Specifically.
How long the conversation should actually be. Everyone says "short." That's hard to imagine.
What to do about severance when it's not required but feels decent.
How to communicate the departure to the team without making him sound bad.
Whether to offer help finding the next thing, or whether that crosses into condescension.
Not asking for legal advice. Asking for the human and tactical reality of someone who has been through this. The first time is supposedly the hardest. I want to make it as not-bad as possible for both of us.