I can understand gacha, microtransaction, season pass daily cap etc in a free game. They want to monetize and keep you logging back in. But this game is payed, wym I can't even progress as much as I want with the game I "own" because I hit the daily progress limit after like 4 games? This has to be textbok definition of not owning what you buy going forward
maybe an uchiha incident part 2?
Broke up a 1.5 years relationship. Wasn't a bad breakup - no cheating, no big fight, no lies, no betrayal. The flame was just gone, her depression demanded her to work on herself while and couldn't handle being in a relationship anymore with so much other things on her head (life stress, no hidden ex or any mischievous fuckups). Clean, smooth, but painfull breakup in good terms.
A week after, we got to talk about how each other is feeling, and we confirmed it's not a time off and no regrets on breaking up. It's done.
some days after I messed up: started sexting with strangers in random forums (if you know you know) I felt guilty, and recognized it was coping. I got out of there and learned to tell apart coping libido from real honest sex life interest. I do believe I'm entitled to my own sex life while single, and so I do believe she is too. It would hurt like hell if she told me she had sex with someone but that's life, it hurts, even if sometimes there's nothing wrong (thats why in fact I think the immoral part is letting the other know for no reason. No different from having sex specifically to tell them out of spite, different intentoin same result. Telling is a no no in my view). I got over my guilt, I hurt only myself and didn't go over anyone. A thing to simply not do again.
Then comes the problem. What about honest, non coping interest in having sex with someone else? I know in my view it's always ok, but reading here how judge some ex's are for having sex soon after, even if it's with pure intent, makes me wonder about the morals of it. May have found someone I'm into sexually, mutually, and I feel like it's not pain or cope talking, it feels pure casual sex intention unlike the before mentioned sexting where I felt it like a need to think of something other than the pain. In fact, the pain isn't crawling to my mind most of the time. It exists, but only invades my daily thoughts for a bit
I believe I separate now what things i do for regular motives, and things im drawn to do out of coping. Avoiding the second clearly
So, what gives? Is having sex after a couple of weeks of breaking up in this context morally bad? does it make you a bad person? what about the natural itch to have sex, if you happen to find the chance to do so with a person you actually want to have sex with and it's not to "get your mind off the pain"? Some people are ready before the others, what would your personal threshold for "honest to god" sex be if you had a breakup like this one? did you have cope sex? how did you feel about it? how do you feel about people that do? how do you feel about people having the before mentioned "natural attraction" sex on month 1? so many questions, pick your favourites.
I know I stated my views clearly but I want to open up to yours, to know what the right thing to do is
