my crazy roommate.
Buckle up this is a long one
I 20F got assigned a random roommate, let’s call her carly 20F. Now it was 2 weeks before move in that I find out she’s going to be my roommate (my OG roommate dropped out because she decided it wasn’t for her anymore).
Now I absolutely love meeting new people so this didn’t make me that nervous. I reached out to her over email because I couldn’t find her instagram and she seemed pretty normal however i couldn’t picture us being friends. From her instagram we appear to have different interests I love exploring going out and going to see broadway shows where she appeared to be more a partier. And that’s fine! In the email I just tell her what I brought for the room and she responded with all she brought is clothes because she came from half way across the world.
Move in happens At first, she was fine. I was trying to adjust back to city life so I was in my head a lot. She made a few friends, went out a few nights, normal college girl stuff. I find out about her upbringing and i find out she’s absolutely LOADED. ( her parents gifted her a house for context on her wealth)
Then she kind of stopped. She suddenly was in the room 24/7. (This was around 2 weeks after move in).
I was sitting in bed doing homework and she coming BARGING in and starts screaming, I obviously think something is wrong so I ask her.
She claims that (and i quote) that “she’s done doing everything herself and wants other people to everything for her” making direct eye contact with me. I was raised an only child, but independent, that you work for everything so this was an immediate red flag.
Over the course of the next few months she’s going progressively down hill, she’s skipping many classes and just sitting in bed all day and ordering uber eats for every single meal eating in bed and once she was done she’d throw the food containers from the top bunk to the floor and not pick it up for hours even days. If someone had tickets to something or going on in general( i lived in a suite of 8), she would yell and say no one invites her to anything and she’s too lazy to figure out anything for herself and throw herself on the couch and whines.
These tantrams were pretty much regular.
There was a basic human thing for her to do (like study for example) and she’d scream and complain for HOURS.
Her attitude toward everything was also really off
If someone told her “oh I really like your shirt”
Carly would proceed to say “I know I have such a good fashion sense way better than you” and literally never say thank you.
Her famous line is she would always yell “i’m yearning for life again i am so dead” for which I would tell her we live in a large city so go outside and she’d respond with “she’s too lazy to get up and walk and she doesn’t want figure out what to do
She’s also insanely dumb and I don’t say that to be mean. I genuinely mean dumb.
She thought the steam pipes in the street letting out steam from the subway was to “warm the city”
And she was insanely sick so i told I was sleeping on the couch and she told me “I’m the only one who can be contagious because i’m whites and she’s not” like please explain that logic.
Her views on politics. Lets just say she told me “racism isn’t real and everyone’s just sensitive about it” (she’s a minority)
If I wanted some sleep, too damn bad because she would be blasting a show or movie at full blast and when asked to turn it down or wear airpods she responds with that “she needs mental stimulation and it NEEDS to be played out loud” so into the early hours of the morning, i would have to wear ear plugs with my noise canceling headphones to slightly mute the sound.
if she went out Shed and slam every door, every drawer possible, even picking up the latter and slamming it against the floor MULTIPLE TIMES IN A ROW
Oh did I mention she’s an alcoholic. She’s skip class, get a whole bottle of wine and down it by noon. So she’d be screaming and drunk. this would be a weekly occurrence
i fully understand that she moved half way across the country and that’s a lot. I made it known if she wanted support i could help her with signing up and getting there. At one point I had to ask her if she was going to harm herself, she responds with shes “too important to die”
like annoying stuff but i know it could be worse
2nd semester rolls around and you’d think it get better, wrong
She suddenly has insomnia. I sleep in but not that late (like 9:30-10 if i don’t have class) and she’d be up at 6am. The moment I step foot out of bed she starts blasting her phone or computer out loud. I told her dude it’s 7am why are we doing this and she’s just complain on how she can’t sleep
She began becoming too lazy to throw out her food trash so she used bags from when she would shop to put rotting food in (I’ve attached photos) that’s SMELT up the room, I genuinely asked her if she thought it was gross and she doesn’t think so. She’d eat exotic foods so it smelt even worse
But the big fight began when she threw her used underwear from the
top bunk and it almost hit me. I calmly told her “hey that’s gross can you not” and her response was to get up and slam the door at FULL SPEED and begin to get violent. The next day she’s still slamming things but telling people in our suite that “i haven’t seen crazy yet” and “i better watch out because the inner bitch is coming out” (that’s so disney channel core)
I’m about to leave to go to housing to figure out what my options are bc what the fuck i just got threatened and she’s sitting there so I tell her “I am sorry if my tone was wrong but what you’ve been doing is gross” and she told me “i’d better leave while i’m at it”
I go to housing, they’re helpful, I do not chose to move out because
She’s honestly dumb as a rock
she is dramatic and makes empty threats
why do i have to move out for HER actions
However her record is LARGE, professors reached out to housing because her lack of attendance and participation.
A few days after I walked out of the room and I hear a bang, she threw a glass cup at the wall and it made a hole. lol isn’t that great
Writing this on the last day of living with her I realize that her mental health is poor and her parents kind of just shipped her off to the US. And yes I absolutely hate her for her lack of self awareness, I do feel bad in the sense that there’s so much more to life and the resources are right there for her within reach
Anyway that’s it! I’ve came to the conclusion that I was living with a depressed narcissist and i honestly hope she gets the help she needs
Some FAQs
Why didn’t you move out?
-I get this a lot, I really enjoyed my suitemates and i’ve heard horror stories of other suites in my building so I didn’t want to take my chances so I bit the bullet
Why didn’t you talk to the RA
-Oh i did, she was helpful in creating plans for me and over good support
What did she sound like
-Valley girl. Like take it from a movie and that’s her. Really annoying like nails on a chalkboard
“It sounds like you just hated her for her personality”
-Yes and no. I let her borrow a lot of my stuff because she just came from another country and I helped her out A LOT. She ended up i. the ER and she called me and I went to be with her
She fully owes me big for that one
if you’re still here, thank you, there’s so much more that she’s done but those are stories for another day.
Feel free to ask questions!