AITAH For not letting a club member back into the club after they left?
I know in the general area in the story I'm not the asshole, but I just want to know if I was being a dick in the beginning.
This was a few years ago in high school but it's been weighing on my mind recently.
Back when I was a freshman, I had been-and still are-really into Dungeons and Dragons, and the D&D club back then had disbanded mid year over social conflicts in the club, and here's where the club member-let's call them Cindy-comes in.
Cindy was an acquaintance since middle school but since almost no friends that I had went to my high school since it was cross city from where I previously went; she became my only friend.
We'd joke about comics and things we were interested in and one of comics we both read had D&D in it and Cindy became interested. Awesome! The more people playing the better. Cindy found the D&D club at my school and joined it. I was content just hearing about it since I just didn't jam with the other members personally.
When they disbanded, I found the opportunity to take it over just so Cindy could play D&D. Because I had been playing D&D for a few years-therefore knew more- I was the DM and President even though Cindy was last surviving member (I was conflicted about doing that but college transcripts and she seemed fine with the arrangement).
I found a member that could join and the club grew from word of mouth.
The problem really started after Cindy transferred schools. I knew that after that; she probably wasn't allowed in the club officially but we still let her come to sessions and play since we did it online on discord over the weekends.
Few months of blissful sessions and then all hell broke loose. We finished a campaign and were making characters for the next over a few weeks as I prepared. Cindy DM'd me privately how she wanted her character to actually be a ghost but the rest of the party doesn't know, even the actual players. I didn't like that much since I prefer full transparency between players but I let her do it anyway since she was still a beginner and would grow out of it.
Little did I know that what Cindy meant by "ghost," was god that's immune to almost every type of damage. One of my players was looking at the other character sheets on D&D Beyond and saw that she changed everything on character to be massively overpowered. She did this without telling me, and this is where I don't know if I messed up:
I DM'd her after taking away her OP stuff "Ok scrap that ghost idea, you can’t put those resistance’s and immunities and not tell me. Never do that shit again" Ok a little harsh but I was pissed. I thought that would be end but no. I check Cindy's character sheet and she added it AGAIN. Now I was furious. I posted to the group without singling her out that if they're going to do something again after I tell them not to, they can leave.
So she left. No, I'm sorry, no, my bad. Just left. I was fine with that. She may have been the OG member technically but she still broke a rule I had set and left of her own accord. Then she left a final note. Summary is: I hurt her so bad, she has no will to live, and for me to go to fucking hell.
End of story now? Nope. For the next 2 weeks she keeps DM'ing and harassing me and members to get back in the group because she needs "story ideas" to write her own book. (Basically taking the stuff I create and saying it's her own).
Obviously I don't, since she has now disrespected me and my players but I wonder if it's not so obvious and am I really the asshole here?
Ok now the full story beyond that, because it get's even crazier. SHE STARTS COMING TO MY SCHOOL, STALKING ME TRYING TO GET LET BACK IN!!!
I had a friend that went to the same school Cindy went to and she knows her as well but doesn't like her so she told me that she got word that Cindy was coming to my school!
I start freaking out. That was so weird and creepy and ugh. Now she knew exactly what room the club met during the school week, so before school started I went to the room to tell the sponsor that we wouldn't be meeting there this week, and lo and behold; she was already talking to him! I ran out of there as soon as I could because I didn't know if she would bring a gun to school or not since she was becoming increasingly unstable in the DM's she sent us.
A bunch of stuff happened in between but this story is already too long, so if anyone really wants the scoop I'll edit it later, but the story finally ends when I reported her to the Dean to talk to her schools Dean and she disappeared from any trace of my life.
Seriously scared the shit out of me. Also let me know if this belongs on RPG horror stories or not.