I don’t know if I should cut my friends off or if I’m overthinking… advice?
I’m a ‘17F’ senior in high school, and my friend group (mostly ‘17F/18F’)has been my main group for about 2–3 years. Lately, I’ve been feeling really weird about everything.
I’m Black, and all of my friends are white, and I can’t tell if I’m overthinking things or if I’m actually being left out because of it.
Recently, one of them took me out of something (like a group/plan), and I texted in the group chat asking to be added back. Nobody responded to me. But the thing is… other people were texting in the chat and getting replies. They just ignored me, and that honestly hurt more than I expected.
It’s not just that either. I feel like I’m always the one putting in effort. Before all of this even started, I bought two of my friends food just to be nice, and now I’m sitting here feeling stupid and mad about it because I don’t get that same energy back. I feel like I’m the only one reaching out to check on them, and nobody does the same for me. But anytime I get upset and stop talking to them, they say it “goes both ways.”
I told them I wasn’t cutting them off, but I literally reached out and got ignored. That doesn’t make sense to me, especially since I’ve already talked to them about how I feel before.
Honestly… I just wanted my senior year to feel good. I wanted to feel included, appreciated, and loved, and right now I just feel like I’m on the outside of everything.
I don’t know if I should stop hanging out with them and move on, or if I should try talking to them again. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? Am I overreacting?