r/LifeAdvice

they blocked me on their number but not instagram, and we ended terribly, their was things we both did wrong and I took accountability for my part but he refused to on his. infact he ended up blocking me because he told me he’s glad this is over, and he doesn’t want to talk to me again ever. the thing is i miss him and I want to text him on insta I miss him, but last night I already texted him this really long text that he decided to leave on seen. it’s to the point where im questioning if I even liked him or if I just liked the attention he used to give me and the way I’m acting right now is because I can’t handle the rejection, especially when he did so much stuff that he dosent want to own up to.

I am 28 M, I want advice on if I am missing out fun if I am not doing casual dating, one night stand and all that stuff. Basically, I dont like doing this thing, and am generally more towards date to marry kind of thing. But all my friends taunts me and torture me doing and going in this lane. They almost every day tells me to go out and have a fun go one night stand, go for casual s*x and all.

So my question is am I lacking behind in life? Am I old school or not modernize? Or Am I missing on life?

Thanks for in advance.

22 M here To sum it up after exam finish went to the parking where at that time most people finished their exam and went to chill in the parking lot

At that time i was hanging with my friends and bunch of people around i know i was about to blackout and fall so i tried to go sit a on a bench did not fxking made it fell hard on the ground and everyone saw me

That's been eating me up since Whenever anyone will meet me they will remember and im fairly easily to remember cause i look very very young for my age so

Many came to help me and ask me if im good gave something to eat water stayed with me but still i just started uni too and just started making friends and now this sht happened of all time today day i saw the most amount of people hanging in the parking lot Its a lot of embarrassed for a 22M

How can i make my mind not think about it or how do i come back from this
Tell me anything to get pass this i have 3 years of uni more and the same people to meet and as told you i look like a child for a 22y is this the rest of my life🫠

I (25M) have been single for quite a while. I have some trauma from previous relationships that made me avoid dating and emotional connection for years.

About 8 months ago I moved to a big city to start a new chapter in my life. I didn’t know anyone here, but I was excited for the adventure and wanted a fresh start.

Since then, I’ve had a lot of setbacks, mostly career related. During that period I realized how lonely I actually felt and I slowly fell into a mild depression. For a few months I felt sad almost all the time.

I got help fairly quickly through therapy and by opening up more to a few people I met here. Thankfully I can confidently say that I don’t think I’m depressed anymore.

The problem now is different.

I don’t necessarily feel sad anymore, but I do feel directionless and disconnected. I still don’t really feel at home in this city or in my own life.

A few weeks ago I started using dating apps and went on several dates. I realized through that process how badly I miss connection and intimacy. Yesterday another date ended because the romantic connection wasn’t really there, and it hit me harder than expected.

Not because I was deeply attached to her, but because it felt like I lost another piece of hope.

Now I genuinely don’t know where to start anymore.

Do I keep trying through dating apps? Or should I focus on building connection and community in a completely different way first?

I’ve started noticing a pattern where anytime I enter a situation I don’t fully understand yet, I immediately feel like I need to research everything at once before I can relax. Lately it’s been happening a lot around getting married. Not relationship problems, just all the life/admin/logistics stuff that comes with it. I’ll realize there’s something I don’t know, then instead of learning it gradually like a normal person, I start spiraling trying to make sure I’m not overlooking anything important. The annoying part is I KNOW this probably isn’t healthy or productive, but my brain keeps treating uncertainty like some kind of emergency that needs to be solved immediately. For people who used to do this, what actually helped you become more comfortable learning things as you go instead of trying to mentally solve everything upfront?

My best friend asked if I’d be okay with him dating my ex, my first love. I told him I was over her and said it was fine, but I’m not sure how to deal with it now. I don’t really know how to handle these feelings. Will this pit in my stomach go away? I don’t want to get in the way of whoever either of them chooses to date.

Hi, I need advice from you guys here.

I'm 19F, pursuing a professional course in accounting. I'm supposed to start working for a period of 2 years for my course, and I can't do it. I can't bear to stay away from home for 8 hours. I did all my studies for the past 2 years online. Going out, I feel anxious, depressed, manic, whatever you name it. I have a string of mental health issues that all crop up when I'm stressed. Achieving my goals don't make me happy and I don't see the point in living anymore.

I was a Science stream student in 12th, and switched because I found finance interesting and Science too hard. I'm strong in academics. However, I find commerce intellectually not stimulating. I don't know whether to pivot to science as I'm not thinking rationally right now, and I'll be 2 years older than all my peers. Even then, I don't know whether that would make me happy either. My parents will not heed me either as I'm known to be indecisive as well.

Please help me to stay alive.

For some context, I moved out of my very abusive home into my own apartment at 18.
I worked as a Medical Assistant and made enough money to get by until I lost my job a couple of months ago. Thankfully, I had savings and was able to pay for a little while through that.
I finally was able to find another job that I started this week, but I am extremely behind on my rent and bills. I have not paid mays rent and I’ve talked to my landlord who said I need to be out by early June if I don’t pay.
I thought about auditioning at the club and I also got an offer to provide certain “services” in exchange for 3000 dollars which would just be enough for me to catch up🥲 I know it’s disgusting and I don’t want to do it.

I met my bf 7 months ago and our relationship has been okay. He has his own apartment where he lives with his 9 year old daughter. I really don’t want to live with a child who’s not mine and I don’t want to play step-mommy. He offered to let me move in with him and he would pay to break my lease but I’m terrified I’d be making a huge mistake. We had an incident a couple weeks ago where he took advantage of me when I was sleeping, then did it again after I woke up and told him to stop. This destroyed our trust and I’ve been scared to even sleep over in case it happens again.

I don’t have any family or friends to help me and I feel so stuck and have to make a decision very quickly. I don’t want to sell myself but I also don’t want to be trapped.
I would really love some advice or if anyone’s been through anything similar. Thank you so much.

Hello everyone! I’m about to graduate high school at 17 and have no idea what to do with my life. For personal reasons, I cannot/will not ask my parents for guidance.
I’ve had some careers in mind such as real estate, marketing, joining the police force, business, hospitality and tourism, random stuff that I find interesting.. does anyone have any recommendations on careers? are my career choices good enough for the real world? what are some good careers that I should get into?

some of my friends are getting promoted, moving out, or hitting milestones and i feel stuck. i know comparing is not helpful but i can’t ignore it. what’s a realistic way to reset and actually make progress without trying to do everything at once?

I (21M) live with my Fiance (20F) and her family which consists of 2 special needs children, mom who is also special needs and dad who is too old to work. The parents are overweight and only do Spark (Walmart doordash), while the special needs children don't work and my Fiance and I work 40 hours a week at Amazon. The parents decided to rent under the table at this airbnb and that's where weve been staying for the past month or so. The money has been extremely tight and I'm trying to be an adult and figure shit out but I just got out of the military and I'm freaking out and I know people on the Internet could care less about me and I'm just trying to figure out what I can do to help my Fiance cause she's freaking out and I'm scared. Does anyone know what to do in this situation or what you would do? Fiance and I are trying to save money but the parents charge us rent and basically all of our money goes to the parents and it's basically a scam but they needed the money. I don't know what to do?!?

It's a long shot and I'm probably just screaming into the void but at the least the typing things out helped me calm down. Thank in advance reddit

..and they always call me to chat to keep them company on their drives, and I’m getting sick of it. They seem to have no empathy. Just telling me about the boring details of their day, to kill time. What do I do?

I am 24 and have been struggling with depression and anxiety for years. After graduating college and now settling into a career, I find myself struggling to see a purpose for it all. Make money, get a better car, buy some things you enjoy. But what helps you actually want to seize the day? I know not every day you wake up is filled with energy and joy. But I just want to be content with where I am. Does a general purpose just fall into your lap someday? Or is it something you have to work hard to achieve?

I was molested when i was 8 and i suffer thru mental illness from it.OCD type stuff from religious to harming other to rabies fentanyl,diseases etc etc.When I was In the 9th grade my friend passed away from a brain aneurysm.I keep asking God to show himself but I get nothing.I feel alone in the world with nobody to help me.What should I do to better my life.

I’m really struggling with a life decision and could use outside perspectives.

Earlier this year (February 2026), I went through a very painful breakup. It completely shattered me emotionally. I became deeply depressed, extremely lonely, and honestly felt like I hit the lowest point of my life. At that time, I felt like nothing made sense anymore and I desperately wanted to be close to someone familiar, so I decided to move from the North Shore suburbs of Chicago to Seattle where my sister and her boyfriend live.

The move itself was expensive and stressful. Movers, apartment setup, lease, everything. I thought being near family would help me recover emotionally.

But now after a few months in Seattle, I still feel very lonely and depressed. The hard part is that while my sister and her boyfriend care about me in their own way, emotionally I don’t really feel understood or fulfilled around them. My sister has a very opinionated personality and often responds to things by criticizing, correcting, or taking the opposite position, which leaves me feeling emotionally isolated instead of supported. Sometimes I actually feel lonelier after spending time with them.

I’ve also realized I really don’t like Seattle itself. I’m more of a suburb person and Seattle feels too dense and unfamiliar to me. I miss the North Shore suburbs of Chicago deeply. Chicago feels like home to me emotionally in a way Seattle never has and I don't think it ever will. I miss the familiarity, the environment, the lifestyle, even simple things like driving around there. When I imagine Chicago, my nervous system calms down a bit.

At the same time, I’m terrified that I may be idealizing Chicago because that’s where my recent relationship happened and where I built a life with my ex. We lived in the same apartment complex for 2 years (although I also lived there before meeting her). I’m struggling to separate "I miss my ex and my old life" from "Chicago genuinely fits me better as a person."

Another huge fear is this: If I move back to Chicago, I technically don’t have family there anymore. Most old friends moved on, got married, had kids, moved away, etc. One old meetup group rejected me recently because things ended awkwardly years ago, and one old friend didn’t respond to me recently either, which triggered feelings of rejection and made me scared I’ll end up completely alone there.

Meanwhile in Seattle, at least I have my sister and her boyfriend nearby as "backup", even though emotionally I don’t fully connect with them.

Recently (2 days ago) things got worse because I had an emotional conversation with my sister and her boyfriend about not feeling supported, and it turned into a heated argument where I felt misunderstood and ganged up on. Since then things feel awkward and tense between us and we haven't talked at all since then, which has made me question the whole reason I moved here in the first place.

Now I’m constantly swinging between:

• "I need to move back to Chicago because Seattle is emotionally draining and doesn’t feel like home." and
• "What if moving back is a huge mistake and I end up completely alone there?"

To make things harder, I really hate change and uncertainty. I also keep judging myself because I’ve made impulsive or emotionally-driven decisions in the past and lost money doing them, so I’m struggling to trust my own instincts.

Part of me wants to break my Seattle lease early and move back to Chicago around August/September instead of waiting until next year. Another part of me worries I’m just emotionally overwhelmed and trying to escape pain.

I genuinely don’t know if moving back would be healing or a mistake.

I am currently getting therapy, actually have 2 therapists since I am really struggling in life.

Has anyone gone through something similar after a breakup and relocation? How did you know whether you were returning "home" for healthy reasons versus just trying to emotionally escape.

My husband and I have been married 14 years and have two kids in elementary school. We live in a suburb that is close to my work and while daily life with kids can be stressful, I always thought we were happy. I work long hours in the healthcare field and he is mostly a stay-at-home dad with part-time jobs throughout the year (usually working 2 days per week in the nearby city). He has become depressed recently and has thankfully started meds and therapy for this. He also is growing bored and resentful of the suburbs and thinks that a lot of his depression stems from our geographic location. He has complained about the suburbs for years, but I always thought he was willing to tough it out for the kids. I think he feels lonely here and that eco-anxiety is also getting to him with all the car-dependence and environmentally unfriendly turf grass lawns, etc. He is also thinking that he wants to work more now that our kids are getting older, but that his job prospects are limited here. Social life here seems to revolve around church and sports and our family is neither religious or athletic. Long story short, he wants to move back to the nearby city, where we lived before having kids.

Personally, I like my life here. I like our house and large lot where we have gardens and old growth tress, and we are living quite frugally with a 3% interest rate mortgage on a very nice house we bought before the pandemic. I'm cool with just hanging out at home reading/doing hobbies and don't really need much for outside entertainment. My kids don't want to move either because this is the only life they've ever known and they have friends in the neighborhood.

We have started looking at houses in the city and I get depressed when we go through houses that are half the size, 100+ years old, and will cost us twice as much in our monthly mortgage payment. Schools in the city are okay, but not as well ranked as the ones our kids are currently in.

I have voiced all of my hesitations to moving, but my husband is rather dead set on it and thinks our whole family's life will be enriched if we move to the city. Any advice on how we can get through this without one of us resenting the other or risking divorce? Should I take a (rather expensive) leap of faith and just try to make the best of city life or try to convince my husband to stay in a place he apparently hates...

Hello! This is going to sound a little ridiculous, as I am currently writing this list at midnight, I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. This of course is being posted on a throwaway account.

I am an 18 (F), due to graduate high school in a few weeks. There is this guy 18 (M), I know him from my schools drama club, I’m going to call him Meatball (it’s an inside joke with him, don’t worry it isn’t a mean joke). Meatball and I have been in several shows together, never love interests if you all are worried about proximity crushes, and he has always stood out to me. He just…has this energy to him unlike anybody I’ve ever met. He is just so unbelievably attentive, and engaged in whatever I talk about, while also having a sassy side to him. Even though we have some very different interests (he plays with rubix cubes lmfao), and some overlapping ones (like theater and marvel), he is always so attentive even when I’m talking about mine. And honestly I can’t stop thinking about him. But we actually have only hung out once outside of school and theater.

Here are the issues, the biggest being that I have never been in a real relationship before. I did some VERY BRIEF dating in middle school, but have had no relationships since. I also am asexual. These two things combined make me scared that I wouldn’t be enough for Meatball, or that he might think I was leading him on when it turns out that I’m asexual (NOT AROMANTIC). I also cant decide if it’s a good idea to ask him out considering 1, we are both going to different colleges around an hour away from each other, and 2. he had a weird incident with another girl from my theater not too long ago.

To be clear this was a few months ago, probably five, around the first show of the year. Basically what happened was this girl from my theater, I’ll call Cinderella had the hots for Meatball. This was obvious to EVERYONE around them. This culminated in her eventually telling Meatball she had feelings for him, however when Meatball reciprocated these feelings she decided that was super weird of him? Which I find lowkey crazy, and my friends do as well (Cinderella told my bsf her perspective, and my bsf still thinks Cinderella was the one being weird). So like, would it be mean of me to ask him out considering that?

With all of those things considered, Reddit, what should I do?

So I’m a 20M (bisexual), and I have four people I consider my closest friends: Maya (F, bi), Jordan (F, bi), Lila (F, bi curious), and Chris (M, not sure).

These are the people I’ve been most vulnerable with. Ever.

Maya and Jordan are my closest, but all four mean everything to me. I even made a “family tree” in my foreign language class that included them and my biological siblings. That’s how real this “chosen family” felt. Like it was all I had. And it’s falling apart

Recently (like a few days ago), I found out Maya and Jordan have been in a relationship for a few months (I feel like it’s been longer though) and I want to be happy for them, but it hurt finding out the way I did. I had already been feeling like a third wheel, like I was slowly being pushed out without understanding why. There would be moments where my presence isn’t being acknowledged when I’m with them. They’re not as attentive when I say something and I would literally be walking with them and they would just start walking away like in the middle of the street or something. One of them only told me after I started pulling away when she asked me if I felt distant from them. It didn’t feel like honesty, it felt like confirmation. Like they didn’t want to tell me. But I think deep down I always knew but hoped that I was wrong. I just didn’t want to believe it. Because now when it’s the three of us, I don’t feel like I’m part of it anymore. I feel replaceable. Like my presence and energy and his entire being is replaced by their relationship and when I’m there I’m more of a problem or something they’re trying to get away from than rather being included fully and thoughtfully. Like they think of me as the child or move like I’m their child rather than their friend.

Lila just got out of a year long situationship/relationship that ended badly with someone I introduced her to, so I already feel guilt there. She’s been distancing herself already and feels the weird energy within our group but has no idea about everything else. She doesn’t know Maya and Jordan are together, and she doesn’t know Chris might be moving. And honestly out of everyone she has the best excuse and reasonings to cut everyone off and now I’m stuck holding all of this in, knowing it could hurt her, but not feeling like I can say anything. And I feel like when she finds out, I’ll lose her too. Not because of what I know but because I hid it from her.

Chris is the only guy I feel genuinely close to. He trusted me with something personal that I kept private for months. He eventually told Maya and Jordan but only because he asks me if he should considering everything and they were in the bodies already and Lila was gone so he did it right there and the because we were leaving to go on a trip the next day. Now he might be moving away, and I told him to do what’s best for him have a whole spiel as to why he needs to do this and told him basically the opposite of what I selfishly wanted him to do (which is to stay). I really don’t want him to go :( We took a trip recently, talked for hours, and I told him I’d miss him. I meant it and to my surprise meant it more than I thought I would.

I’ve also had feelings at different points. I had a small crush on Maya early on like 2 months into hanging out with her but I buried it and killed it because I valued the friendship way more. More recently, I had feelings for Chris on and off, but his vulnerability made me realize I’d rather keep the friendship than risk losing it. Like I’ve rarely had really good male friendships but when you have a friendship where someone is super open super honesty super vulnerable about something to you. Is crying to you about it and your just there listening and trying to be a shoulder to cry on typa person for this person it just makes you wanna keep the in your life for as long as you can yk? I mean no one’s ever been that vulnerable with me. So keeping that friendship is way more important than having this crush. I even told Maya and Jordan about that, and they understood and agreed with me on that point. Lila already knows about it to (asked me if he was laying in my bed next to me when he came over once)

But…

I thought we all felt the same way about this friend group. That we’d protect it. Now I feel like I was the only one who believed that. It feels like I was living in a fantasy for a bit.

I’ve been in friend groups where this has happened before. And I’ve seen those friend groups fall apart because of something like this before, and it feels like it’s happening again.

Because when everything settles, everyone still has someone.

Maya and Jordan have each other. Both from the same home city. And both have families they go back to.

Chris is moving on to a new chapter. And he’ll be closer to family so he’ll have immense support. He’s super close to them.

Lila has a great support system. She has friends and family in this city and she grew up here.

And I’m just… here.

Estranged from my family and they don’t even know I’m bisexual so imagine that (came a very religious christian household). And then realizing the people I thought were mine might not consider me in the same way I’ve always considered them. I’m losing everyone…

So now I just feel stuck. And honestly, really alone and lonely.

AITAH for wishing they never told me, and for wishing they weren’t together?

grew up in a religious household so I’ve always been very guarded when it came to having intercourse or even kissing. I’m in college now and I’m starting to get to know a lot of different people, and I’ve noticed when I mention I’m a virgin or I’m not Intrested in having sex a month in the guys just leave. I feel like I’m overwhelming the people I’m getting to know by telling them I want something exclusive and I don’t want to just have sex like that. any advice?

I am 17 years old, I got no job and some of my friends are leaving me , (online friends).

I'm just not sure on what to say. Two of my friends of four years are leaving me, and I want to move on with my life and move onto boxing and start that, but im just confused on what to do. I really dont want to leave behind my one friend, he's a funny guy and I really like the guy, but I'm just confused on what to do. I just need a bit of advice.