How Were We Duped?
I read it somewhere. Apparently, a jury decides within the first five minutes not who they believe, but who they want to believe. We’ve grown up over the last thirty years wanting to believe in Johnny Depp.
We always knew he had issues with anger, alcohol and drugs, but he was Hollywood’s rebellious, fragile and talented child. We excused every one of his actions. He was always special. We never felt this much empathy for other actors of his generation. We spoiled him so much that, in the end, we created a spoilt man who took no responsibility for anything and to whom no one ever said no.
There were times whilst following the case when I had my doubts. The audio recordings and witnesses confirmed that Amber had been subjected to violence. There were people who had seen her bruises. In fact, it seemed so certain that the kicking incident on the Boston flight had been proven by the audio recordings and messages. But there was such a strong consensus on social media that I thought, ‘I must be wrong.’ I was actually glad to be wrong. Because he’d been my favourite actor for thirty years, and I’d invested so much emotionally in this man.
I loved him most of all because he was funny. I always think that people who make me laugh are good people. You know, if a man is charming and funny, we women are easily won over.
Depp’s legal team, just like him, were very manipulative and aggressive. They planted seeds of doubt in our minds.
Why didn’t Amber leave the man who abused her?
If she was abused, why did she marry Johnny?
Why did she give her husband a knife as a gift?
Why did she make audio recordings and film videos?
Why did she meet her husband in a hotel room after the restraining order was issued?
Why did she beg Johnny to make up with her, to hug her and look her in the eyes?
Why did she send Carino (addressing Depp) affectionate messages for two years after the divorce?
Why didn’t she obtain a medical report for her injuries?
All of these were convincing arguments for us
Because most of us are unaware of toxic relationships. A woman can fall in love with a man who abuses her. Because in the early days, everything is wonderful. These men can be extremely manipulative. After acts of violence, they become the sweetest man in the world. They apologise and convince you. You feel guilty and apologise. Then you experience violence again, feel guilty and are manipulated. You get trapped in a cycle of love, hate, violence and passion.