Update: Guy I’ve been on two dates with continues to ask to come over when I’ve politely declined - AIO by calling it all off?
Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/2YajiLxiGO
So following yesterday’s initial post around wanting to call it off after it felt like he was insisting to come over, I got lots of good advice. I read all comments, and understand where both the YOR and NOR were coming from. I could’ve definitely been more clear in telling him I didn’t want to meet at my apartment and at a bar around the corner instead.
Based on this, I decided to share that I was feeling a bit uncomfortable as he came across as pushy, which he probably didn’t intend to (photo 1). I also said this to check his reaction, hoping it might be salvaged if he was like ‘oh I’m sorry, totally didn’t not my intention, would you still like to go for that drink?’
Then based on his responses I decided to push back and say that I did want to see him, it felt like he was twisting my words (photo 2). The voice note on photo 2 was a minute of apologising for me feeling pushed and then two minutes of wanting to hang out. With him not acknowledging that and him saying he was sorry that I felt being pushed (which in my eyes is a non-apology) I decided to call it off entirely (photo 3). It had literally been two dates and it felt like too much effort already for how little I knew him.
However, was I overreacting by calling it off then? Did I end it too quickly?
The other two screenshots show the rest of his reactions.
(And finally - I decided to call him a nice boy as I really dislike being called a girl, when I’m a 35f and he’s a 37M).